I blame the media. Every movie paints a girls partner as abusive and she needs to be saved from him, you just have to stalk her enough.
Hey boys. If she likes you she makes it really clear "women use signals that need a decoder to detect" "a lot of women don't put any effort into a conversation". No, she just not into you, move on with your life. And if you think I'm full of shit you're just admitting you've never experience attraction from a woman.
"women use signals that need a decoder to detect" "a lot of women don't put any effort into a conversation". No, she just not into you, move on with your life.
those are both true. relationship advice is full of women who think they're being obvious by doing some vague thing that could mean anything. you're a guy, you probably have to risk rejection to find out if she's one or the other. sorry.
We had mutual friends who worked out we both were interested in each other, so they arranged a night out at a bar with her and my friendship groups for us to spend some time together.
Everyone knew that was why we were all going to be at that bar that night and they quickly left us alone to talk.
My wife couldn't have shown less interest! She looked bored to be there! I tried every trick in the book: asked her about her interests, family, studies, aspirations, told her jokes, flirted, teased, asked her to dance, asked if she wanted to drink or go somewhere else. Literally got nothing from her and left with my friends that night without her wondering WTF had just happened.
We eventually did get together and eventually she told me that she didn't want to seem easy to get that first time we spent time together!
In my experience, there is an entire spectrum of how straightforward women can be in communicating their romantic interest. Everything from the shyly avoiding you all the way to literally throwing herself at you. That creates a huge amount of overlap with naturally flirtatious (but not romantically interested) people if she's not direct about it.
You may be great at communicating your romantic interest, and I commend you for it. But please be assured that a significant percentage of women are just hopeless at it. And if you ask me, it's not us who should need a secret decoder ring. It's them who should just take a chance and ask that dude out.
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u/ac1084 26d ago
I blame the media. Every movie paints a girls partner as abusive and she needs to be saved from him, you just have to stalk her enough.
Hey boys. If she likes you she makes it really clear "women use signals that need a decoder to detect" "a lot of women don't put any effort into a conversation". No, she just not into you, move on with your life. And if you think I'm full of shit you're just admitting you've never experience attraction from a woman.