r/MadeMeSmile • u/gummyshroom • Jul 15 '21
Another year sober & another year loving my life :) Personal Win
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u/IReallyHateDolphins Jul 15 '21
I'm about to hit 5 months myself
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u/gummyshroom Jul 15 '21
You got this!!
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u/IReallyHateDolphins Jul 15 '21
Thank you :) so happy for you and your kiddo, I see a great future for you
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u/Dude-Hangs-Dong Jul 15 '21
I’m really happy for you. Getting and staying sober is so hard. I struggle with alcohol and it’s kicked my ass but I fight everyday and for the past week at least I’ve been wining.
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u/Zrgaloin Jul 15 '21
You don’t win it a year at a time, friend. It’s all day by day. Good for you for fighting through it. I look forward to seeing your post here and we can celebrate you being sober for a year
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u/hankit12 Jul 15 '21
Hey keep it up! And hopefully you won't Turn out like my dad, haha
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u/OozySteam Jul 15 '21
Same here
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u/IReallyHateDolphins Jul 15 '21
Twins, in this together
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u/OozySteam Jul 15 '21
Yep every day I just make sure I don't fall off my wagon!! Keep reminding myself the thought sounds better than the reality would be. No sense getting lost once agian.
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u/IReallyHateDolphins Jul 15 '21
I spoke to all my old dealers to not sell to me again, a few apologised profusely, they thought I was selling on and said they wouldn't of let me buy that much if they knew I was the only one popping the pills
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u/SBFUILY Jul 15 '21
I need help getting off them. Any advice or recommendations for resources?
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u/Hedrotchillipeppers Jul 15 '21
What is it exactly that you are taking? Opioids? Benzos? ADHD meds? Because those are all very different things to kick and require very different methods
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u/wagamorf Jul 15 '21
What’s so bad about dolphins
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u/IReallyHateDolphins Jul 15 '21
It's a play on words, my name is dolph haha, also dolphins are kinda rapey
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u/Don_Quixote81 Jul 15 '21
Well, look, if people (or fish or other aquatic mammals) didn't want to be raped by dolphins, they shouldn't have gone swimming. They only have themselves to blame.
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u/Jooguns Jul 15 '21
Big congratulations to you. Right in that same boat. Hit my 5 months yesterday. Stay strong!
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u/IReallyHateDolphins Jul 15 '21
Congratulations man, I'm thinking of getting a tattoo or a nice ring for 6 months
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u/chunkyI0ver53 Jul 15 '21
Yessir 4 months of benzos here!
I went on a one week holiday a month ago for the first time in years without feeling like I was a decaying corpse from withdrawals. Feels good to have my life back!
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u/Unsere_rettung Jul 15 '21
Awwww look how happy your daughter is. She needs her mama.
Congrats, I know it's extremely difficult.
Here's to many more years of happiness for you and your daughter.
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u/zSprawl Jul 15 '21
Many addicts are just depressed and have no reason (in their mind) to try and live. She’s got a reason right there! Hang onto it.
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u/jwp75 Jul 15 '21
Yeah it's crazy a girl that young could get addicted to drugs but that blueberry thing she's eating seems to make her super happy. Good job mom!
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u/Formal_Victory_1353 Jul 15 '21 edited Jul 16 '21
Congratulations! Day 5 for me. Been sober 6 of the last 9 years and it’s time to get back on that horse.
Edit: my first gold! Did not expect this today…
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u/gummyshroom Jul 15 '21
You got this <3
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u/Formal_Victory_1353 Jul 15 '21
Thank you so much! Your smile is amazing btw. Pure radiance.
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u/guyute2588 Jul 15 '21
Can I say I support you and I’m happy for you!!! before I say the obvious and hacky reply:
Phrasing! :)
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u/BoopBoop20 Jul 15 '21 edited Jul 15 '21
I just want to say, as an emergency responder, thank you. Your daughter will have no idea what it is like to find you unresponsive on the ground and that makes my heart so happy. Morbid, I know but it’s real life. This past weekend I took a 30 year old woman into the ER after her 3 year old daughter found her “with her lips blue” unresponsive on the floor. The woman was brought back with narcan but then selfishly relapsed and OD’d again the next morning. These are the calls we hate to get. We hate walking into a house with a crying toddler bc their parent won’t wake up. We hate having to console a toddler while pumping their parents chest.. these are the calls that haunt you.
If anything, stay sober for her and give her the life she deserves knowing the real you. Take care of yourself, I am so proud of you.
Edit: so with the vast amount of comments telling me that she’s “not selfish” please understand this; she told the RN before leaving that “she does not care where her daughter ends up”. She went to rehab 3 times, 2 were court ordered and she left both times early. The third she left after 2 days and 3 days later her daughter found her unresponsive. To be given chances, to be given resources and to be given the chance(s) to change nit only for you but for your daughter, that, to me, is selfish behavior. I do not ever change the way I give care or the way I handle patients based on their choices. I am very understanding, I am very willing to help and go out of my way and I do, every single day. I am not looking for a Pat on the back or a “cookie”.. I am looking to spread awareness that if you don’t want the help, it cannot be forced upon someone and you cannot expect them to change. There is a certain will that is needed to make the change happen, and from what I observed and heard about this patient, she is not willingly to change for anyone, not even her 3 year old daughter. Call me wrong, downvote me, whatever, but I will stick by what I said and I am extremely proud of OP for thinking about not only herself but her daughter to make the life change necessary to give her a good life. Thank you.
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u/Useless_Poop Jul 15 '21
Thank you for doing what you do. I’ve been sober for 17 months and I have a friend who was watching his own children and his neighbors children when he OD’d on the lawn. They brought him back, he went to a meeting with us then OD’d that night. I have countless stories like this and you guys are the unsung heroes in these situations.
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u/YellowDefiant520 Jul 15 '21 edited Jul 15 '21
5 days clean and sober here.
Edit: dang. Thanks all. Almost 6 days now.
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u/Shitplenty_Fats Jul 15 '21
Ten years here. It got a lot easier for me with time. You are at the foothills of your Everest.
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u/Puma_Sneeze Jul 15 '21
And how cool will that be at the summit looking back down at their first few days? Good luck my friend. You got this!
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u/Shitplenty_Fats Jul 15 '21
It turns out much of that mountain was an illusion, at least in my case. Often fear drives us to perceive an inflated version of the actual challenge. But I nearly died on multiple occasions - I was my own worst enemy.
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u/_logic_victim Jul 15 '21
4 years here.
Don't look at the mountain. Just look at your feet and take a step, then another.
You'll get there and if you aren't willing to suffer through the march, there is only jail, death and institutions.
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u/YellowDefiant520 Jul 15 '21
Wow. They say you get your brain back at 5 years and you learn how to use it at 10. True?
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u/scarletts_skin Jul 15 '21
If we’re talking heroin, through the worst of it. If you can get through those five first days, you can make it five weeks, five months, five years, and so on. It’s hard sometimes but I believe in you. You got this.
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u/YellowDefiant520 Jul 15 '21
We’re talking the whole kitchen sink.
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u/scarletts_skin Jul 15 '21 edited Jul 15 '21
Ah, the sink! I remember him. Jokes aside, as much as it sucks now, it’s worth it. Life sober is so so much more enjoyable than being in withdrawals or out of your mind all the time. You’ve got this. My DMs are open if you ever need it.
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u/MDMALSDTHC Jul 15 '21
All that matters is now, worry about not doing it now. It’ll get you to the end. Best of luck my friend!
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u/Bruised_Penguin Jul 15 '21
I'll have 4 years August 11th. Just keep at it dude, we do recover. Have you considered working steps? NA or AA
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u/Chewparker76 Jul 15 '21
Just think tomorrow you can start counting in weeks and soon enough months! Keep at it.
Edit, I'm coming up on 7 years and it's amazing.
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u/BidenWonDontCry Jul 15 '21
2 years here, stay strong brother. It's never easy but it gets easier.
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u/censor-design Jul 15 '21
Keep it going champ. Remember it’s a long journey. Don’t be afraid to talk to a psych or be part of a support group.
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u/T8TT003D Jul 15 '21
Nice!! Keep going! If you ever need to talk to someone, having a rough day or just want to vent, got your back. We all have to stick together in sobriety. Its definitely a hard road but you got this!!
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u/Dr_Snoop54 Jul 15 '21
You got this!! Just hit a year for me, you can absolutely do this my friend!
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u/1Eat4ss Jul 15 '21 edited Jul 15 '21
I’ve been in a similar situation only a few weeks into the job. Except it was the mother finding her unresponsive son in his early 20’s. I’ll never forget the way his mother ran up to me and fell into my arms begging me to save her boy
This shit affects more people than one would expect. Please reach out if you’re struggling!
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u/_0x29a Jul 15 '21 edited Jul 15 '21
As a first time father of a 2 year old I couldn’t even make it through this comment. Literally heart breaking to think about a little, tiny innocent human scared to death for their parent. Ugh.
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u/OMGBRONCOMANIAC Jul 15 '21
Right there with you, dad. Shit wasn’t fun to read, but usually the most important things aren’t. And stuff like this makes me so glad for every hug and kiss I get to give to my little ones.
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u/_0x29a Jul 15 '21
Ugh. I went and hugged my beautiful little person right away. I’m usually not so sappy but when it comes to children, you’re different after having one of your own, and my heart hurts for any child out there crying over a parents body without anyone there. Ugggggh :(.
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u/kcg5 Jul 15 '21
Fucking a that’s heavy. Been in an ambulance many many time w seizures, and you guys have always been amazing. Very calming to my family as well. :)
Thank you again
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u/alwaysmispells1word Jul 15 '21 edited Jul 15 '21
As a lawyer who deals with child custody/adoption/guardianship cases I'd like to add to this.
Even if they don't find mommy face down on the floor, this a child who will get to stay with mommy and not have to be taken for their own protection that they can never understand. This is a child who won't have to wonder why mommy doesn't take her home when she sees her once a week.
Children don't understand the choices that put them in these situation, they just know they want mommy. So thank you, op, for making sure that precious bundle has mommmy around!
Edit- the replies are getting a little twisted. Personal accountability is the whole key to breaking addiction and the number of people trying to get around that in the replies is frustrating me. Did i get a little hot about it? yes. One tends to do that when one is surrounded with it all day and has a bunch of arm chair liberals telling me how not woke i am. Choices matter, and personal accountability is exrtemely important for breaking addiction.
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u/GuitarCFD Jul 15 '21
My nephew OD'd while he had his kids and his wife was away. Paramedics were called and his life was saved (also, thankfully he was sent to rehab and is now doing very well, but every day is a new day right?). While this was going on it turns out his wife was being arrested for possession. To avoid the kids possibly going into a home, they relinquished their parental rights and my sister was named guardian. Right now this 1 year old and 4 year old spend monday through friday with my parents and usually the weekends with my sister (managing schedules best they can). My nephew and his wife can't be around the kids without supervision and it's heartbreaking to see that little girl cry and not understand why she can't go home with mommy and daddy when they come to visit.
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u/alwaysmispells1word Jul 15 '21
It truly is. And I work with both sides of the equation. Parents who get their lives back together and want their kids back, but need to check all the legal boxes, and granparents trying to get custody because the parent refuses to change.
I hope, whatever happens, the kids wind up where they are wanted, loved, and cared for. Hopefully the parents can get their life back in order as well, but either way m hope is the kids grow knowing love.
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u/GuitarCFD Jul 15 '21
what are the boxes that need to be checked in general?
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u/alwaysmispells1word Jul 15 '21 edited Jul 15 '21
Honestly, it varries greatly by state and even county, and largely depends on the specific court guidelines, so I can't answer that for you. Being straight and asking the assigned social worker what would need to happen is a good place to start,
As a rule its not something you should need a lawyer for, just work with the social worker. Get a lawyer if you feel the social worker has an agenda other than the child or if your case is somehow highly unusual.
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u/eye_no_nuttin Jul 15 '21
Everything the court/Judge demands for them to be compliant for Re-unification of their children~ Drug court programs, Parenting programs/ classes, sobriety, maintain stable housing , employment (stable) and any medical necessities or therapy for children , counseling…
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u/neuritico Jul 15 '21
Thank you for sharing this story, and thank you for doing what you do. I think another small step we can take toward a healthier society is trying our best to avoid language that blames the person struggling with addiction (ie "selfishly" relapsed).
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u/Tompthwy Jul 15 '21
Free will is an illusion. You are your body, you are your brain. Sometimes the brain is abnormal physically or chemically in a way that does not allow for impulse control or rational behavior. You're right, Calling addicts selfish doesn't help anyone.
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u/OGrickyP Jul 15 '21
Even tho it wasn’t you, you saved me. SOME1 like you gave me narcan. Thank you. I still cry when I think about it and it’s been over 4 years clean…FUCK FENT!
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u/broikeson Jul 15 '21
These are the scenarios we dont think about, even me as an ex-vol-firefighter. I absolutely dont want to see or put my baby boy in this situation. Makes you really see it as a selfish act. Thank you for this post, now I'm going get coins for you and OP because I value this kind of content.
OP- CONGRATS! I wish you the best.
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u/gummyshroom Jul 15 '21
Im loling at the 'goth' comments! im like obsessed with rainbows, unicorns, sparkles and everything sparkly lol!! just a black shirt day hehe. thank you so much everyone, means the world! and yes that is my daughter. she is 21 months old and I got sober 3 months before i got pregnant (unplanned)
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u/fuckyouijustwanttits Jul 15 '21
No no, tattoos and a nose ring. That means goth. /s
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u/mysockinabox Jul 15 '21
I don't know if you like rainbows like I like rainbows, but I think they are one of the coolest and most inspiring natural phenomena. Also, good job. You're awesome.
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u/New-Respond-5002 Jul 15 '21
That little girl is WAY too young to have a drinking problem. Someone should tell her mother.
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u/someguyfromtheuk Jul 15 '21
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u/Pkuehn01 Jul 15 '21
Great work. I bet that little cheeser in your arms couldn't be more proud of you.
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u/my_cat_is_high Jul 15 '21
Little cheeser is such an adorable term and I will be using it from now on. Many thanks, friend I've never met :)
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u/hereforff Jul 15 '21
For some reason all I can think of is the Little Caesars Cheeser Cheeser Pizza when reading that lol. (There is one nearby me so I'm seeing constant promos.)
https://www.thrillist.com/news/nation/little-caesars-pepperoni-cheeser-cheeser-pizza-returns
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u/SoullessCycle Jul 15 '21
lol, thats perfect for describing how little kids smile at this age! This is what every photo of my sister from about ages 2-4 looks like. “Say cheese!” HERESALLMYTEETH
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u/Lono96 Jul 15 '21 edited Jul 15 '21
There's no high like sobriety!
I have 900 days today 2 years 6 months 12 days sober.
Congratulations on your achievement it only gets better!
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u/Current_Sympathy7466 Jul 15 '21
I am so fucking proud of you. That beautiful kid you have right there will get to have you by her side for a long time to come and that’s the best gift to her you can give.
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u/Dracu98 Jul 15 '21
I'm not sure of there's anything more uplifting to me than seeing people beat their own demons for the sake of someone else. it reminds me that having great parents is sadly not the standard, and that people like op fcking rule and should be cherished
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u/OneQuestionStop Jul 15 '21
I've started my sobriety journey this week, I'm 5 days in of no smoking weed, tobacco and not drinking alcohol. It's a tough journey, you should be so proud 💚 it's not easy to do
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u/HaleyMerel Jul 15 '21
Yaaaaas queen! I’m going on 4 years and have my first baby and she’s 4 months 🥺🥺🙏🏽🙏🏽
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u/LaceOfRisa Jul 15 '21
Wow, congrats to you for both of those! What a wonderful life you're going to have together!
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u/thors_pc_case Jul 15 '21
Hey I remember you! You made a post detailing an awesome job working remote if I am remembering correctly! Go you! Woot woot!
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u/amewreckindream Jul 15 '21
congratulations. it really does keep getting better. that little one is lucky to have you and vice versa ❤️
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u/pitmeng01 Jul 15 '21
Congrats!!!🎉 Also: the joy on your daughter’s face would be enough to qualify for this sub. :)
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u/uraniumstingray Jul 15 '21
This is THE cutest picture I've seen in a while.
And congratulations on being so incredibly strong and sticking around. The world is a better place because you're in it and your daughter is going to have such a great life with you.
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u/alwayssaysyourmum Jul 15 '21
You both look super happy - but that little girl looks utterly over the moon. That’s amazing. Congratulations. You’re clearly doing something very, very right.
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u/Raggmommy Jul 15 '21
You are so beautiful and that little munchkin in your arms looks SO HAPPY! Total respect for keeping yourself sober for so long.
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u/tharealmouse Jul 15 '21
Precious baby! Congratulations, Guardian! Prayers for a full,long, happy, healthy clean life!
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u/silentsammy Jul 15 '21
You have an absolutely magnetic smile. The world needs more smiles like that!
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u/Devlin_Bowman12 Jul 15 '21
Says the kid in the picture… all jokes aside proud of you random person on Reddit.
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u/XxLAFORETxX Jul 15 '21
Okay first obviously I’m really proud of you and I’m happy you’re happy, but can I just say what gorgeous tats you’ve got!
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u/dellamella Jul 15 '21
Both of your smiles are so big and matching this brings tears to my eyes. Beautiful family keep going girl your doing great!!
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u/extesler Jul 15 '21
You rock dude!
That little one is lucky to have you. That's the best reason to stay clean.
441 days myself with a 3 month old grandbaby and enjoying everyday.
Be proud of yourself and always remember how hard you worked to get here.
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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '21
Proud of you stranger! Hope it keeps going well. If you ever are struggling and need someone to vent to please feel free to reach out! You got this!!
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u/Bolt-From-Blue Jul 15 '21
Congratulations to you wherever you are. You and your little’un look happy. Da iawn.
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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '21
dont give up :) keep going not just for yourself but for the people that love you
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u/Scarlaymama0721 Jul 15 '21
Congratulations girl! I got sober when my youngest daughter was seven months old. It’s been eight years now and every single day I am so glad that I don’t have to drink anymore. I’m so happy for you. Keep coming back❤️🌹
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u/bobonmy6 Jul 15 '21
Beautiful picture. Keep on keeping on. I was there as well. Not I have 2 boys. . . 2 and 6. . . And they are my everything. Will never go back. Life is good
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u/BobbiNoNoseKnows Jul 15 '21
Look at the smile on your daughter's face! She's so happy to be in the arms of her mother. Remember that smile and this moment forever and continue to use it to drive you forward. Congrats on your sobriety!
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u/L0rdDenning11 Jul 15 '21
Congratulations! Your child looking so happy is a reflection of how well you’re doing!
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u/FramedFlower Jul 15 '21
Good job! You will never get the credit you deserve for staying sober. Your daughter is beautiful 💜
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u/ChieftainQueef Jul 15 '21
I really don't mean to be an ass, but when people say "sober" and are young, I immediately default to assuming hard drugs. We use sober to mean sober from so many different things. Like, she beat alcoholism? Meth addiction? Or did she quit smoking pot? I need details. We need to create new words to mean sober from different things. Lol
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u/gummyshroom Jul 15 '21
i was doing about 300$ worth of blow a day and any opiod i could get my hands on. i still occasionally have a drink (drinking has never been a problem for me, not really my thing) and i still (legally) enjoy my THC!
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u/HookerofMemoryLane Jul 15 '21
Me before coffee looking at this post: "How can that baby be one year sober?!"
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u/JohnnyTreeTrunks Jul 15 '21
Man there is a lot of joy going on in this pic. Also some stellar hair do action
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u/rougethesis Jul 15 '21
Good for you! Your daughter looks pretty pleased with the sobriety that I assume required a lot of hard work and discipline. Keep that shit up! ⚡️🙌🏼