No but you can't find a therapist you can find an escort. I literally called every therapist near me and only 25% called back and of them only 2 actually made appointments and zero actually held due to them flaking.
I haven't hired an escort but I bet they show up and call back.
Side note Dr. G from youtube has a practice near me and costs $400 an hour cash but I couldn't even get an appointment so that should hopefully explain a bit of the reality of American mental health care at this point. Even if you have money you can't get help so you hire an escort.
I also struggled to get an appointment at speech therapists near me. Then I got a referral from my primary care physician, which made all the difference. I suggest you try that if you haven’t already.
You should go to an annual physical. It’s not an artifact of our insurance. In my last annual physical, my doctor observed I had a heart issue that I hadn’t noticed. It’s preventative medicine 101.
As I said, it isn't a thing here (Australia). It isn't an appointment I can make on my local doctor's system.
I googled it and apparently check ups are considered to be incorporated into standard doctors visits here - because seeing a doctor is free, most people will go a few times a year anyway.
It’s the same thing. I don’t normally need to go to a checkup for years because I don’t get sick, so this is an opportunity to do preventative care… if you get sick a lot and already go to your doctor multiple times for year, great.
There are countless reasons to shit on US healthcare, but free annual preventative care ain’t one of them.
Also, if your PCP doesn't help or you don't have one I'd suggest checking out public health departments and community resource centers. They can also help you get your foot in the door for needed services. They also tend to take on interns through grad school and while you may not be getting direct services from someone who's in the field- those interns are desperate to do a good job and closely supervised. Even if it isn't a speech therapist interns they have the resources needed to help get you where you need to go through networking and such.
I really hope you aren’t serious. Escorts are not certified therapists and have no formal training. They also break the cardinal rule of therapy (it’s unethical to fuck your patient). Replacing actual therapy with a person you pay you have sex with and tell you what you want to hear is an awful idea regardless of how trash the medical and insurance system is in the US.
Better something than nothing... welcome to the American mental health system. I'm not saying I'd do that or I'd recommend that. I'm saying that therapists are unreliable and unattainable for most so people make alternate plans. People use drugs to medicate mental health symptoms because they can't get the right therapy from a qualified medical expert.
No one should hire a hooker for mental health care... they're hiring someone to help them not be alone. That's valid.
No that is %100 not true. Taking a harmful action (using an uncertified untrained escort for therapy and sex) can be absolutely worse than if you hadn’t done anything at all. The implication that no harm can come from unhealthy coping mechanisms is ridiculous.
Not all therapists are unreliable. Many of my friends and millions of people worldwide have benefited massively. I’m sorry you had a bad experience but it’s in no way indicative of the experience most will have.
If you have no one in your life that can stand you without being paid paying someone to be less alone isn’t going to fix that. Therapy go get to the root of why that is would be the best option.
You know how I know you didn't read the main post?
Taking a harmful action (using an uncertified untrained escort for therapy and sex)
If you had read the point of this post you'd see he didn't fuck her or do anything sexual. So you're just ranting about a perceived violation. You have a negative perception of sex workers which is your prerogative but not true because you believe it to be so. Some are good some are bad. That's life.
This entire thread is about a guy who did it successfully thus proving your theory to be wrong. Just because you don't like something doesn't mean it's bad.
If you have no one in your life that can stand you without being paid
paying someone to be less alone isn’t going to fix that. Therapy go get
to the root of why that is would be the best option.
I don't know why you're projecting your problems onto me. I don't have those problems and I eventually found a therapist who isn't bad at running a business and doesn't flake. I don't disagree with your premise of "therapy is best" but I vehemently disagree that being alone is a valid choice for the lonely.
Just because it makes you unhappy doesn't make it wrong.
You know how I can tell you didn’t read my post? I didn’t say the specific man in this story fucked the escort. But that is generally one of the major if not the only major reason someone hires an escort so when I was pointing out they are a poor substitute for therapy I mentioned it generally as a thing that does happen and makes them a poor substitute for therapists.
My negative view is of using untrained sex workers as therapists and anyone claiming to provide therapy having sex with their patients. I’d personally like sex work decriminalized. But my personal views aren’t what’s at play here, you bad experience with therapy has you miffed someone disagrees with you and so you’re lashing out at me personally.
This entire thread is about a man who ran off 7 sex workers before he found one willing to be paid to tolerate him and had one friend who eventually stopped charging him to see him every so often. We don’t know what issues we causing no person to stand him without payment and whether or not they were resolved. Somehow I doubt his stutter made him so repellant. This story isn’t even verifiable as true. In no way is this an example of successful use of an escort for therapy.
No one said “you specifically have those problems dude” it’s “you” as in “people”. How do you get off telling other people they don’t read and then get this personally offended and worked up at claims no one made and statements that weren’t personally directed at you lmao?
The choice isn’t “pay an escort” or “resign yourself to being alone forever” and I never said it was. There are things you can do between those two things and speech therapy is cheaper than a mid class escort in many places not to mention easier to get an appointment with because it’s not actively illegal in a lot of areas.
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u/Rich-Candidate-3648 26d ago
No but you can't find a therapist you can find an escort. I literally called every therapist near me and only 25% called back and of them only 2 actually made appointments and zero actually held due to them flaking.
I haven't hired an escort but I bet they show up and call back.
Side note Dr. G from youtube has a practice near me and costs $400 an hour cash but I couldn't even get an appointment so that should hopefully explain a bit of the reality of American mental health care at this point. Even if you have money you can't get help so you hire an escort.