r/MadeMeSmile • u/crustychaos27 • 23d ago

My Professor wrote this mail to my friend after he accidently sent him messages about suicidal thoughts. Professor Michael ,Thank you from the bottom of my heart Good Vibes

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u/SorstonLive 23d ago

Awesome, hope your friend overcomes his Demons.

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u/crustychaos27 23d ago

Thanks man , I was honestly terrified when he texted me

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u/Jkerb_was_taken 23d ago

I am a mental health advocate for my job. We provide resources if you would like some. Please pm me.

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u/cym13 22d ago

Oh, do you have a checklist of sorts for regular people to help them handle such incidents? I feel like most of the time people that are depressed don't go to professionals but regular folks and we should really be taught how to handle it, a sort of "first mental aid" kit so if there is any good, actionnable, resource about this I think it should be shared more.

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u/krushkrush 23d ago

Thank you for feeling for your friend. I hope your friend is doing well.

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u/ypriscilla 23d ago

This is terrifyingly and this professor handled it well. A friends son took his life this past May and no one had a clue. Please make sure he speaks to someone and hopefully he will get through the days he feels like it’s not worth living. It’s terrible to think that a smile or encouragement could save someone from leaving this earth too soon. Be well! Spread kindness!

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u/JustDiscoveredSex 22d ago

My son’s friend, too.

Sorry, man. It sucks.

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u/ypriscilla 22d ago

Oh man. I can't stop thinking about the 'what if'. What if someone had called him or someone had stopped by.
His poor family. So sad.

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u/JustDiscoveredSex 22d ago

I know. Like… if only I’d had a fucking clue. I didn’t. I had no idea. And I feel so bad for that. Any of us would have done anything we could have. Been there, bought that shitty t-shirt, gladly would have offered support.

Instead he’s just no more and his family has been left crushed. It’s awful stuff.

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u/squigster037 23d ago

Your university probably has a free counseling office, he'll be safer in the long run if he goes and talks to someone, even if for a little bit, just to get his thinking together. Suicidal people don't want to kill themselves, they're scared and they feel hopeless, and they don't feel safe. Talking to a counselor can help them look at their lives, adjust their thinking, and find hope.

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u/ChicagoSuburbanDude 23d ago

Not to nitpick here but suicidal people do want to kill themselves, that’s what classifies them as suicidal.

Also university counseling is a shitshow in my experience. Lots of schools operate on the “queue” system and so you sign up not knowing when you will have an appointment, could be days, or could be months. This added instability to somebody who’s suffering can add to the mental turmoil.

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u/carsont5 22d ago

My cousin went to the local campus counselling… place? He was in extreme duress. They needed him to fill out some forms before they could find time to see him. He couldn’t manage it. He went back to his dorm and hung himself. This was 8 years or so ago. It absolutely tore our family apart and changed us all forever. I don’t know that college counselling offices are equipped for it, please called suicide help lines.

Hugs to your friend. I hope he gets the help he needs and will be ok.

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u/megbha 22d ago

That sounds terrible! I am sorry your cousin and your family had to go through that. My university had counselors who were available for both on appointment and on emergency. Thankfully, the emergency one did not have any forms to fill!

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u/Calibeaches2 22d ago

My university saved my life by a academics counselor personally walking me to the counseling offices. The most amazing therapist I had stayed to talk me through my suicidal feelings for two hours.

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u/megbha 22d ago

I was glad for my experience with a counselor too! Helped me a lot at the time!

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u/blackcatt42 22d ago

Suicide helplines are also ass tbh

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u/sachio222 22d ago

Depends on who you get. Don’t be afraid to hang up and call for someone else. When you find a good one, you know.

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u/carsont5 22d ago

I’m really sorry to hear that. I’m fortunate in that I’ve never been in a position to have to call one. I had a really good friend who volunteered for one here and they were excellent but I can see how it may vary around the country

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u/sachio222 22d ago

I’m so sorry to hear that. That change forever is terrifying.

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u/carsont5 22d ago

Thank you for your kind words. Yes it forever changed the family. It caused rifts (blame is terrible) amongst the family, destroyed relationships and fundamentally changed / damaged people. I would never have imagined the impact it had, prior to that I would have thought it would be just like someone had died but no it’s not even remotely the same.

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u/tired-scientist-7 23d ago

I have been suicidal. I did not want to kill myself. Life was so unbearable, and my brain chemistry so fucked, that the only relief I could see was death. Suicidality is a bit more nuanced then your nitpick gives it credit for.

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u/ChicagoSuburbanDude 22d ago

Not really, to me it’s black and white, you cross a line in your depression. I’ve attempted suicide and most certainly wanted to die both times. Suicidal ideation is not the same as being suicidal, there is a clear clinical distinction with intent.

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u/minnilivi 22d ago

Okay fair. That’s how it worked for you. That doesn’t mean it’s true for everyone across the board. Your experience is valid, but it is also valid to say that for some people they don’t want to die, they want the pain to stop and they see death as the only option.

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u/MisterOneY 22d ago

I'm comforted reading that my thoughts and feelings aren't unique. Saddened as well, but glad to know I'm not the only one who has been suicidal and not wanted to die. The confusion makes it difficult overcome, almost pushing me to make a decision sometimes. Though I've found help more recently in life, these issues still raise their head now and again.

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u/Neptune3434 22d ago

For some people it never fully goes away we just learn to manage it. We are all surviving on coping mechanisms. Somewhat over simplified view of mental health but we are difficult creatures to change as humans. But you are most assuredly not alone.

Portia Nelson

http://www.masterworksbroadway.com/artist/portia-nelson-0/

Chapter I I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost… I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter II I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in… it’s a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault… I get out immediately.

Chapter IV I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Chapter V I walk down another street.

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u/Neptune3434 22d ago

So we can all agree that suicidal ideation and being suicidal are very different spectrums of the issue. Even in suicidal ideation there is spectrums of I don’t want to exist, I don’t want to feel pain to getting into modality.

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u/ChicagoSuburbanDude 22d ago

No. Being suicidal, and having suicidal ideation a are two different symptoms in the same vein of depression. Do not equate them.

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u/sachio222 22d ago

To others reading this, Please don’t downvote someone who is sharing their suicidal experience just because you disagree with what they’re feeling. No one knows better than the poster. It may not be a universal experience, but it’s their experience. Respect that.

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u/Neptune3434 22d ago

I’m not……. You may want to read what I wrote.

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u/ChicagoSuburbanDude 22d ago

Yes you are. You are taking my comment of bout people who are suicidal and going into an explanation about suicidal ideation. That is essentially equating the two .

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u/overallthebs 23d ago

I've heard it said that suicidal people "want the (emotional) pain to stop" and death is the only way they can think to do that. There are other ways, but they involve time and care.

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u/BlueTressym 22d ago

Yes, and usually money as well.

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u/JustDiscoveredSex 22d ago

As if they have never tried. As if they didn’t invest time and care.

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u/blackcatt42 22d ago

Yes and no.

I am 100% ok with being dead- on my own terms. Suicide is not scary, illness or being killed by a bus absolutely is.

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u/Neptune3434 22d ago

Suicidal ideation doesn’t mean you want to kill yourself. You just envision a world without yourself because your in pain. Acting on it is a different story.

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u/ChicagoSuburbanDude 22d ago

Suicidal ideation does not equate to being suicidal. Hence the distinction.

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u/eazeaze 22d ago

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u/Neptune3434 22d ago

Thank your friend for albeit accidentally but taking a huge first step to get help and encourage them to seek therapy.

Don’t take no for an answer and don’t wait months. Keep looking until you find someone who will help now. Suicide hotline might be a good starting point.

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u/sachio222 22d ago edited 22d ago

Same happened with my brother. It’s so terrifying. They become so overwhelmed. It’s not easy. It never is. It’s hard to cope too, but they say if someone is drowning, throw them a lifeline, don’t jump in with them because you you get pulled down with them.

Not that you’re supposed to be happy while someone you care about is sad. He’s going to doctors now and trying. My room/office has been getting messier and messier, I haven’t been taking care of myself, I’ve been self medicating by over eating. Even bought cigarettes and started smoking here and there.

I am trying to focus on raising my vibes. Just know that nothing you can do can make them choose to live. It is up to them to choose to live. And it’s so hard, but talk to a therapist if your work offers it.

I even called the suicide hotline and a great person named Emma, you know who you are, lent me an ear and listened to me so intently. Really helped me feel less alone.

I am a positive person by nature, but it was like someone took over the brother I had once known. Terrifying. I felt struggles and pains and intensity of emotions and thoughts I had never faced before. True fear and helplessness.

I am trying my best to cope and I hope you can do well through this.

I don’t know the answer, I’d show him life was worth living in any way possible if I could - but he needs to decide ultimately. It’s so, so very hard. Such mixed emotions. If someone wanted to kill my loved one, I’d be so pissed at them. But because it’s my loved one that wants to kill themselves I have to be patient and sit there while they tell me they want to take their own life.

Ultimately, they need to find a reason that is worth living for. It can be anything, no matter how small. But as long as it’s their reason, they can hang onto that.

And build on top of that. I’ll pray for you and for your friend and all their loved ones. I hope for the best.

Edit: returning to this, I just want to ask people to wish him well in their thoughts as well as OPs friend. It feels selfish to ask on someone else’s thread but it’s ongoing as we speak so, anything is worth hoping for. Much love to you OP and your friend and to all of you who may be struggling as well.

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u/SrslyNotAnAltGuys 22d ago

I used to volunteer on a suicide crisis hotline, and sometimes we would talk to people in your situwtion. Don't be afraid to call them and ask for tips on how to talk to your friend. They can walk you through the basics, no sweat. I know it's scary to talk to someone who's having suicidal thoughts, but the fact that they're willing to tell you about it is the biggest hump of all to get over.

It's scary to be in this situation because there's a worry that you'll say the "wrong thing," but on the balance, it's worse to avoid talking to them then it is to do so and maybe stumble a little bit. As long as you listen to them and don't try to minimize their suffering, it's hard to go wrong. Do call a hotline, though. It's what they're here for.

Good luck, you've got this!

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u/foxyshmoxy_ 23d ago

as someone with my own mental health problems, this made me tear up a little. would be great if everyone was as kind as he is!

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u/Babykillershark007 23d ago

Hope you're doing well buddy, if you ever need someone to talk to my dms are always open

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u/foxyshmoxy_ 23d ago

thanks for reaching out, we got a saying in my country that weeds are hard to kill so I'm gonna be fine!

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u/FormerLongTimeLurker 23d ago edited 23d ago

I don't know what you're going through, but I'll pray for you. I hope you have a wonderful day! Sending many virtual hugs

My DMs are open too, if you want to talk to someone

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u/foxyshmoxy_ 23d ago

Thank you so much, I'm gonna be fine. It's just a work in progress, but I'm gonna get there!

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u/OkMakei 23d ago

Now I kmow who took the screen name that I wanted... 😕

I'm happy that someone better than me took it, though. 🙂

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u/44198554312318532110 22d ago

Hey friend! I’m sure Lurker is a great person, but I wouldn’t think of them as better than you!

I bet you both have unique gifts to offer : )

(I share this partially because I used to have a really low view of myself and your comment sparked some old memories of mine. Wishing you well : )

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u/AryanSlayerForSure 23d ago

Dw buddy everything would be just fine one day if we keep hope alive inside us. Believe me one day you will be as happy as the happiest person in the world someday, Dark days always pass on quick for the good ones to come after them.

Hopefully bud everytime will be okay in your life and let's just hope for the best to happen.

If you ever feel suicidal , unhappy or depressed from anything just msg me , Although I don't know you I will try my best to cheer you up again or even better consulting a trustful friend is always preferred who will help you overcome your depression hopefully .

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u/foxyshmoxy_ 23d ago

Thank you very much, I really appreciate your comment. I'm gonna be fine, just have to work a little harder at getting there. I wish you all the best!

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u/PsychicTWElphnt 23d ago

Yeah same! I'm on a break at work trying not to start crying.

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u/x3meech 23d ago

Fucking same dude.

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u/nothisistoni 23d ago

My professors would just shrug and be like "Well, deadline is tomorrow tho"

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u/Dramatic_Iron_4595 22d ago

Hope you're doing better and remember you're always worth it and special to someone. If in doubt, remember how amazing and awesome you are! Always ❤

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u/foxyshmoxy_ 22d ago

thank you so much ❤

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u/bleepybleeperson 23d ago

Good man Dr. Michael. The world would be a much better place if we all had his compassion. Hope your friend is doing OK!

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u/crustychaos27 23d ago

Thank you guys for all the kind messages and dms.

There are somethings I would like to clarify -

The person who received this mail is not me its my friend, I simply posted this

Dr Michael is not an English native and is my Spanish professor

Hope that clarified somethings

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u/triggerh4ppy817 23d ago

That’s funny, the only teacher who ever reached out to me when I started skipping school due to depression and a shitty life at the time, was my high school Spanish teacher lol.

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u/PeskyRat 22d ago

Funny but for me it was Spanish professor too, in my last year of college. I had a bad cultural reentry shock and kind off slacked in college. I was an A student so it was highly atypical. He sat me down after one test that i did just an okay and was like: "i know you can write this with your left leg in your sleep. What is going on?"

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u/filmhamster 23d ago

Dr Michael is not an English native and is my Spanish professor

I was going to say, Dr. Michael sounds like a good dude, but I hoped he wasn't an English professor!

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u/Aka_Diamondhands 23d ago

Proper lad, when you are in a dark place it’s little helpful message like this lifts you out of it

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u/OlivineTanuki 23d ago

My friend recently committed suicide. I wish he had a Dr Micheal. I had no idea

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u/lottieslady 23d ago

I'm so very sorry for your loss, and for the struggles your friend endured. 😭Take good care of yourself. 💜

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u/starwolf_98 23d ago

Sometimes, you receive love and support when you least expect it and when you need it the most. This quote in the book, The Alchemist, has changed my life for the better: "The universe always secretly conspires to work in your favour"

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u/icecolddrink 23d ago

I read this when I was younger and this quote has stuck with me for years!!!

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u/jenze0430 23d ago

I had a professor in community college pull me out the class to ask if I need help. It was a psychology class and the paper due was personal struggles. I wrote in depth of what I was going through at the time and I wrote that I contemplated suicide a few times but never went that far. I will forever remember that professor and what he said that day outside of his class..

Teachers and professors that pay attention to their students are one of kind and deserve more recognition then they receive.

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u/StayAliveMadeMeCry69 23d ago

What a G, sharing a beer with a student AND giving advice. 10/10, Professor Michael

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u/makiko4 23d ago

Hey, I have tried and often still struggle with those thoughts. One thing I’ve learned is to always promise to wait till tomorrow. Keep doing that every morning. Not today, Maby tomorrow. Now I can promise my self, let’s wait a month. I now trust that things do infant get better. In the moment I still get overwhelmed and I have two people I totally trust to help me when I am in that place. It’s good that your friend has people they can talk to about that. It’s exosting fighting that fight In your head every day. Some times you need others to help you make it. I know people always say it, but life really does get better. Even when it sucks some times, there is so much good that we forget about. I hope your friend get the help they need. There is no shame in needing some help. Tell them this internet stranger is cheering them on and will every day. They are a bad ass to me.

Also this professor is amazing

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u/Complex-Puzzleheaded 23d ago

I intend to become like Dr. Michael someday ...

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u/CappucinoCupcake 23d ago

This made me cry. We all need a Dr Michael at some point. OP, I hope life soon looks brighter for your friend,

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u/seedpig 23d ago

"Life is more than marks and money" What an absolute legend quote and something students forget far too often. Best of luck to your friend, reddit is rooting for him.

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u/AMvnx27 22d ago edited 22d ago

Hello, I am the suicidal dude in the post .

When my sister died last year from covid, I couldnt take it anymore . My sister was my everything , she was my best friend , she was my pillar , she was my support and she was my hero. She worked multiple jobs so we could have food to eat and a roof to sleep.I just felt empty . I had lost all will to live . I didnt want to live yet I wasnt strong enough to kill myself . I read a lot of motivational books and watched a lot of motivational videos they always said things will get better yet they never did . Every day became suffering and my grades went downhill. I had lost the will to live. Waking up felt like a chore , I prayed daily to die in my sleep. I took a bunch of pills hoping to die yet all I got was chest burns and pain.On Friday I was tired of trying I had decided to end it , yet my pitiful self was scared that if I killed myself , nobody would know or even care . Like the bloody idiot , I am I decided to message some people who I thought would at least feel something about my passing.I was going to end it all , I didnt want to suffer anymore nor be a burden to anyone .Thats when this idiot u/crustychaos27 saw my message ran to my room and hugged me . I couldnt explain it but I just started crying like a idiot , It felt as if God didnt want me to die.The Professor advice to take care of my " metal health" burst me into tears .I just wanted to say thank you to all of you , this means a lot to me .I have already started therapy sessions and these two idiots refuse to leave my room till I feel better. I am also dropping a year to take care of myself .I just want to Thank all you , all these concerns and offers for help mean a lot to a person like me. I am also taking a break from social media for a while.I am alive today because of these beautiful people and your comments just strengthened my will to live . I wouldnt say I am recovered but this gives me hope that the future holds something better

Thank you again and a very goodnight

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u/hotheaddad 22d ago

Even in our darkest moments, remember, there are people who love you.

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u/Mineatron 22d ago

<3 you got this bro ily

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u/Xinder99 23d ago

I remember being in school and I was going through my own mental health issues, I must have just looked like I was loosing it and like I could hardly could keep it together, as I am walking out the door to leave class someone handed me a chocolate, because you know its supposed to cheer people up. and at that point in time I literally was in such a bad spot that I just broke down crying, small acts of kindness can have a huge impact on others let alone something as sincere as your professor here.

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u/tomhatzer 23d ago

Prof supporting his „metal“ health is dope!

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u/TomTheGirl 23d ago

Didn’t catch that until this comment!

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u/Paradehengst 23d ago

As a metalhead, I concur that powerful metal health is essential! \m/

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u/LT_DANS_ICECREAM 23d ago

I love Quiet Riot!!

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u/CmGaugo 23d ago

Dr Micheal for the win ❤️❤️❤️

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u/throwaway4u2021 23d ago

Made me cry. Really lovely to see someone put compassion before all else.

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u/ilikewhencatsmeow 23d ago

I wish i received an email like this. Cheers on this lovely sentiment. The idea of having a beer in a cabin with companions is wonderful. Best to you friend.

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u/Dead8Ended 23d ago

Good professors are hard to find, good friends harder. Don't lose touch with this one.

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u/ControlFantastic5699 23d ago

OP you son of a bitch this is r/mademesmile not r/mademecry.

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u/Doun2others 23d ago

My daughters professors told her she was out of luck when she had to be admitted to a mental hospital and had to withdraw from two classes with Ws on her transcript because the professors didn’t give a shit and we’re going to fail her, and the university wouldn’t get involved. Most professors suck.

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u/lottieslady 23d ago

Disgusting. I'm so sorry to hear this. I teach college and frequently tell students that school can wait, health cannot. Take care of yourself first. I hope she is doing better and wish your family the best.

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u/BlursedSV23769 23d ago

He really is a good person.

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u/mousse_moo 23d ago

i hope your friend gets better soon <3

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u/oktarver 23d ago

My whole heart

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u/jman2c 23d ago

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u/zyugyzarc 23d ago

what

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u/jman2c 23d ago

I'm calling the teacher a chad

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u/zyugyzarc 23d ago

oh ok the image wasnt clear

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u/Rickyspanish33 23d ago

Hopefully that gave him some positive energy to carry through

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u/Pitiful-Reserve-8075 23d ago

I hope Louis is ok.

Dr. Michael is a great Professor. He's writing to connect with Louis, or at least to give the right advice to a young person in despair.

Thanks for sharing.

Have a good one bro.

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u/1983Discord3891 23d ago

How's your friend doing? There's more people worried and concerned then he knows. Tell him, and let us know how he is!

Also that professor rocks.

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u/AfterBill8630 23d ago

This Prof just taught the most important lesson: the lesson of empathy!

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u/InsignificantBiscuit 22d ago

Suicidal people aren't usually people who want to die, they just can't think of any other way to stop the pain

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u/theartistduring 23d ago

We all need a Michael. I'm glad for your friend to have the strength to reach out in his darkness.

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u/iambored282773 22d ago

Is nobody going to comment on how OP makes the same punctuation error as the "professor" who wrote this email? Their typing is identical. Check OP's comment history. It seems a little suspicious that there was an actual professor sending this.

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u/tiredbanana 22d ago

Lol I was thinking the same thing; check out how they both wrongly space their punctuations, especially the commas. Coincidence? Up to Reddit to decide.

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u/lumos_solem 23d ago

Is your friend in therapy already? The email is very sweet, but if your friend is suicidal it is important that he seeks help soon. I think therapy is necessary, no "if".

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u/AnandShakti 23d ago

thank-you!

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u/Senator_Knowledge 23d ago

The part about the beers almost made me feel like crying

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u/Living_Pie205 23d ago

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

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u/UlusOfJoch 23d ago

I had no idea that I needed to read that today! Thanks OP!

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u/inkyturtleee 23d ago

What a wonderful gift he gave your friend.

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u/A_Grinning_Demon 23d ago

Metal Health is how I tackled depression. I listen to lots of metal and it calms me down.

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u/Paradehengst 23d ago

Agreed. Can I interest you in: Youtube: Bloodywood - Jee Veerey

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u/A_Grinning_Demon 22d ago

I will always listen to a music recommendation. I gotta say, that flute intro had me thinking you were messing with me

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u/Sherlock_GD 23d ago

I am not crying! Tears

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u/checkonetwo 23d ago

I like the idea of calling it metal health. My mental health sounds like metal music sometimes. I know it's a typo but at least for me it seems to fit.

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u/neogirl1234 23d ago

Made me smile, no, this made me tear up.......we need more people who do things like this! I hope your friend gets the help he needs! People care about him so much and it shows!

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u/MrSodaBoi 23d ago

Ive been there, this made me choke up a little

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u/MacaroonStatus9944 22d ago

Funny how the Professor and OP make the same punctuation mistakes.

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u/NeoBlackNoir 22d ago

Love and respect for not caring and voicing the truth that grades and such are not the world but loving yourself is kinda thing.

Just wanted good for the kid so love and respect!! Need more people who are willing to show thenlove when others need it because it makes us all stronger

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u/HellaLethal 22d ago

We need more Dr. Michaels

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u/Odd_Requirement_4933 22d ago

College Academic Advisor here, all I keep thinking is I hope Prof Michael notified the dean of students office 😬 At my university, we have a team that monitors these situations and will check on students and refer them to our student advocates that can help refer students to services. I've had to do this twice. I don't mess around with this! My father did commit suicide, so I'm extra sensitive to sounding the alarm if I feel it's warrented. I also had a student in my academic probation class attempt it. He turned it around that semester and earned his best grades he had ever earned in college. Also he did graduate 😁. I'd rather they are annoyed with me than dead. I'll also walk them directly to counseling services, do not pass go. Straight there.

That's my PSA to not brush this stuff off, it's serious. I wish I could go back in time and force my dad to get help. That's not possible, but we need to look out for each other the best we can.

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u/MountieHUMom 22d ago

I taught an adult ed class this summer and I had an emotionally challenged student discuss suicidal thoughts on the class bulletin board. I contacted admin, but they dillydallied trying to decide the appropriate response. I ended up emailing her, knowing that her paerents monitored her email. She ended up dropping the class, but she was ok.

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u/Specialist-Kick-1387 22d ago

This is very heartwarming. But the thing that caught my attention is: "Don't worry about your grades...I have given you an A".

I'd be worried if he hadn't earned that and only won it out of sympathy, but perhaps that's just me reading too much into it. Just wouldn't be fair on the rest of the class, were that the case.

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u/callecallecalle 22d ago

Anyone else confused by how many typos are in this letter from an actual professor?

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u/Organic_Quantity4805 23d ago

For being a professor, I'm surprised he doesn't know how to proofread.

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u/shopify_partner 23d ago

What if he messaged all his teachers to give him good grades. Just a plot twist running in my head. Ignore it.

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u/parwaze_the1 23d ago

That's one way to get an A

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u/I_TensE_I 23d ago

I don't wanna take away from the nice message on the wall of text, but that seems to be a lot of errors for someone with a doctorate to make

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u/all_thehotdogs 23d ago

It's almost like spelling and grammar aren't direct representations of intelligence.

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u/jman2c 23d ago

He's not a native English speaker, so there's that aswell.

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u/abby20306 23d ago

.....

Metal health lol.

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u/National-Art3488 23d ago

Hello 60 year old uncle who makes fun of kids with deppression

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u/SaryNotSorry 23d ago

i think he was making fun of the profs typo

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u/National-Art3488 23d ago

Ohhh, my bad

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u/abby20306 23d ago

1 I'm 22 and an aunt not an uncle

2 I can't blame you for thinking I'm 60 cause my comment was a reference to quite riot bang your head

3 as someone who battles with depression on a daily bases I wouldn't make fun of depression. But it's a great typo on the professors part.

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u/bananatheswitch 23d ago

This did not make me smile.

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u/bluehornet197 23d ago

I've seen this before that professor is a hero we all deserve but never asked for

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u/Aedzy 23d ago

I wish your friend all the best in his well being. I also would like to wish Dr Michael all the best as well for being such a nice human being.

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u/AryanSlayerForSure 23d ago

That is the most wholesome thing I saw todat!

Take my award here right here buddy!

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u/Acceptable-Tie 23d ago

What an awesome guy.

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u/Zottelchen 23d ago

10/10 professor.

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u/Hopeful_Experience66 23d ago

Dr Michael is a real man

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u/TwistedFredbear87 23d ago

Professor Michael is the definition of a Chad. I love this man

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u/Jkerb_was_taken 23d ago

In university, I would explain at the beginning of the semester i have a lot of mental health problems, and would like to mention I do care and will get the work done despite missing classes.

One professor failed me. Another talked to me about his battle with cancer and how he got depressed too.

Two different reactions and one of them helped me so much more.

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u/Dapper_Rest6065 23d ago

I thank you too Professor Michael. Your humanity shines.

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u/Then_Conclusion 23d ago

What a good man that Professor Michael

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u/greeninfer 23d ago

That professor and this post is very wholesome

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u/Stefunny_wanderlust 23d ago

I hope he isn’t an English professor. But in all seriousness, that’s a decent human being right there.

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u/Frosty_Sweet_6678 23d ago

wholesome :D

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u/TheRob941 23d ago

This professor wins life! Hope your friend is doing well.

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u/Infinite_Chicken1968 23d ago

Such a wonderful professor

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u/DanfromCalgary 23d ago

This made me cry

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u/Puzzleheaded_Teach90 23d ago

I got choked up over this

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u/mysteriousblue87 23d ago

OP, please be with your friend. My best friend from high school literally saved my life by simply talking to me. Make sure Louis knows you care and love him

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u/LegendaryCoder1101 23d ago

i guess there is still humanity

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u/purekittyluv 23d ago

Had me until that laaaast line

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u/Rhesus_A 22d ago

That's really touching. You're both lucky to have a caring professor.

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u/itzbetter 22d ago

We all need Dr Mike

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u/Shadowin9 22d ago

Did the prof grade his suicidal thoughts “A”?

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u/PiLamWolfy2000 22d ago

Not buying it. “Doctors” email has so many spelling and grammar errors…

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u/TitanicFan2020 22d ago

I understand what he going thrue I been thare an believe. Me I wouldn't recommend it I acted on my depression an I'm. Still getting help if he needs a friend I would love to talk to him he not alone

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u/is_taken__ 22d ago

People like this are the reason we need to pay and respect teachers wayyyyy more.

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u/Zeroxx08 22d ago

Good person, but his punctuation is way off. That's weird.

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u/Firejay112 22d ago

I know a lot of people from that generation who punctuate with spaces. Maybe it’s a typewriter thing?

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u/forever_inept 22d ago

Made me smile, more like made me cry!!

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u/producermaddy 22d ago

I love this

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u/YoujustgotLokid 22d ago

I think my heart just grew three sizes

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u/travelerpost1970 22d ago

I nearly teared up! Right on, by this man! I love it

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u/Dramatic_Iron_4595 22d ago

Not all hero wears a cape

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u/Huge_Examination1577 22d ago

Wait why do i hear doom music....?

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u/Dismal-Secret-7867 22d ago

Depression runs in my family. Shamefully, my son struggles with it too. Hope he has a professor like this when away at College. The World needs more teachers like this.

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u/mglalala8 22d ago

This is how it’s done.

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u/Izukumidoriya3 22d ago

honestly this guy deserves so much better so does your friend just gonnna say this tho all schools need to hire teachers like this more then like 50% of teachers are absoulte idiots that hate kids and just go to a school for money (don't understand it tho teachers always say they dont get paid enough so) and then they expect kids to be normal acting adults when more then half of the adults dont even acts like that anyways i hope your friend is ok and i hope the teahcer gets a raise or something

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u/b_kiss26 22d ago

This is truly wonderful! I hope the “ young man” who wrote it is ok.

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u/IIDIDOW 22d ago

More educators like this beautiful soul

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u/Silver_Oakleaf 22d ago

What a legend

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u/DaarkKnight001 22d ago

What a chad!

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u/LucaThatLuca 22d ago

What a lovely message :) I hope your friend is doing okay. If he is getting behind on work, he should definitely consider a more realistic approach than being handed unearned grades so that he can get further behind. Not a good idea from the nice professor there.

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u/Choosybeggar2 22d ago

This is the first time I’ve read any a professor giving a student an A to help decrease his mental burden. Unbelievably thoughtful words and actions. Hope your friend is ok

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u/randomlyme 22d ago

Metal health is where it’s at.

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u/MeghanBoBeghan 22d ago

This is supposed to be r/mademesmile, not r/mademeuglycry

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u/ImNotAKerbalRockero 22d ago

Lol, the title of the e-mail: Regarding your grades.

Good bait, from a good teacher.

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u/MikeHawksGinny 22d ago

It'd be kind of funny if the professor got accidental messages from several more students that day but he stopped giving out A's