Honestly, how do you know the person you’re dating is the one you should marry?

[u/Severefan]

I’ve been dating someone for a year: I have moments when I am sure and I also have my doubts. We are on vacation visiting my family and have a lot of squabbles, a lot of moments where I am frustrated or irritated to tears, but I am also having such a fun time with him. A lot of good conversations, great sex, happy moments of showing him my world. It is pretty complicated and since we are having a lot of conversations about living in different cities, and having kids, I have been finding myself thinking a lot this week about marriage.

Cliches like “you just know,” or “when your life is better than your dreams..” or “when he makes you smile more than he makes you frown” or “he’s the best person you know” aren’t that helpful. I am a depressed and cynical person who is amazed by my capacity to even feel romantic feelings for another person when I thought it’d never happen for me (I am 27!). I would love some down to earth and honest answers from other people who struggled with doubt and uncertainty in their own relationships: how do you know? Anything helps.

Thank you. :)

[u/BcILoveHer11]

I broke my foot and my SO took such good care of me and was so patient and loving and helpful. That’s when I knew I could spend the rest of my life in this marriage. The final icing on the cake for me