r/SocialEngineering 21d ago

How to convert strangers to friends? (basically how to fix a meeting with someone you barely know?)

as far I know, to make friends, you need to meet them and do activities together which makes the bonding stronger.

now, recently I met a guy at a restaurant, which is from a college I know and we are studying the same course, we exchanged numbers (i took his number, saying I have a friend who wants to get admission in ur college, so I could use your help), now how can I invite him for a meetup and plan an activity thus make the friendship bond stronger?

what is the best way to do this without being a creep or anything? since he is a very very stranger I can't invite him for movies or any sort of stuff, I think he would better agree on a situation where i could use his help

ps- I'm a straight guy just want to improve my friend-making skills

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u/HittingSmoke 21d ago

The fact that you're asking here is a bad sign. I suggest you work more on social skills. Using manipulation intentionally is the opposite of social skills, which is what people will want in a friend.

Maybe the two of you aren't going to make good friends. In which case if you try to force it, that's the only way this is going to be creepy. You're making it creepy from the start.

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u/TerribleAssistance14 21d ago

I don't think it is a problem if you use manipulation skills and mind tricks to get someone to be your friend.

What matters is the intention behind everything... If he's trying to be his friend just to get something out of it he'll definitely fail and the friendship will just become another one, now if he truly wants to add something in the other persons life and leave his ego behind then chances are he's gonna succeed