r/Tinder Aug 17 '22 All-Seeing Upvote 1 Helpful 3 Silver 2 Wholesome 1

Asked her out to Minigolf and pizza and suddenly it went from date night to family night lol. Her profile didn't mention being a parent.

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u/RagingSofty Aug 17 '22

“I have 4 kids?”

Dont ask me lady

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u/atred Aug 18 '22

"I have 4 kids .?"

What kind of a monster leaves a space before the dot and then adds a question mark?

"They will be with me"

No punctuation... hmm.

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u/NormandyLS Aug 18 '22

It's her sudden realising

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u/jubbliesonly Aug 18 '22

Shes been on tinder for so long she almost forgot she had 4 kids .!

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u/MemeStocksYolo69-420 Aug 18 '22

This is what I hated the most. Like what kind of communication is this? I have a friend like this and it’s always about working around him

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u/maxk95 Aug 18 '22

Idk they always have friends over i lose track it’s between -1 and 5

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u/PrestgousFartMonster Aug 17 '22

Who the fuck introduces all 4 kids to someone on a first date without a second thought?

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u/VoltaicSketchyTeapot Aug 17 '22

Not a good parent.

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u/gmoney92_ Aug 17 '22

And someone looking for help in the worst way possible.

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u/Teccnomancer Aug 17 '22

Free pizza for her and the kids.

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u/ShelterConscious4124 Aug 17 '22

Sorry children, we’re not eating dinner tonight - my date fell through.

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u/KlontZ Aug 17 '22

that’s actually pretty sad

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u/InfectedTonsils Aug 17 '22

But I also laughed.

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u/Alarid Aug 18 '22

The laughter helped with the hunger pains.

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u/Minute-Tradition-282 Aug 18 '22

As long as it's not a "belly laugh". Then it hurts even more. So be funny, just not to funny!

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u/swingset27 Aug 17 '22

Someone who has 4 kids, is on Tinder, and doesn't disclose this....that's who. Probably 4 different dads, too.

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u/anotherone121 Aug 17 '22

Birth.con.trol.

It's a fucking thing. Jesus.

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u/Grimbauld Aug 17 '22

The Lord Giveth.

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u/toc_bl Aug 17 '22 Helpful

some times I wish The Old Testament Lord would come back to taketh a little more frequently

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u/the_dragonrider Aug 17 '22

With fireballs and saltpillars if i can request smt

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u/Stravok182 Aug 17 '22

Someone trying to get a guy to pay for her kids night out

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

A little weird right? 10 minutes in and she wants me to meet her kids. I mean I'd love to have kids of my own some day but I surely wouldn't be comfortable going on a first date with a stranger's children.

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u/DanskJack Aug 17 '22

I think she wanted a free meal ticket. I like it when they show red flags early on. Edit: I met my last 2 girlfriends through tinder, keep at it, there are some good ones if you weed through them.

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u/Bleatmop Aug 17 '22

It wasn't going to be a date. It was going to be you paying for their food and minigolf and then her trying to make it awkward so you would leave early.

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u/Grimbauld Aug 17 '22

You’re mean. You brought up family fun day first!👀😤😅

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u/UpsetFuture1974 Aug 17 '22

Well he did Invite her to a place with “FAMILY fun” right in the name /s

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u/Feralpudel Aug 17 '22

Lol she was just saying “you bring the fun, I’ll bring the family!”

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u/brocks12thbrother Aug 17 '22

Someone who is subsidizing family outings by having someone there to pay for them probably - or someone who’s babysitter bailed at the last minute and didn’t want to re-schedule.

It’s deffo odd but probs multiple reasons

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u/shinymetalobjekt Aug 17 '22

Well, at least she gave him warning before the actual date happened, lol. I wonder if she had it listed in her profile.

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Nope, I actually read bios and hers didn't mention kids.

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u/Realistic-Spirit4217 Aug 17 '22

You apparently don't cause it was said in the bio to this post she didn't have it listed

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u/YaboysodopeV2 Aug 17 '22

Someone who wants a free meal for their kids lol

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u/pnwWaiter Aug 17 '22 Silver Gold Helpful Wholesome hehehehe I'm Deceased

She needs Groupon, not tinder

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u/BrewletteTV Aug 17 '22 Silver I'm Deceased

She already got her group on. How do you think she ended up with so many kids?

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u/siccoblue Aug 17 '22

Fucking stop she's already dead inside

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u/BrewletteTV Aug 18 '22

Clearly not true. Her insides work…4 kids to prove it and counting.

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u/Craigermeister69 Aug 17 '22

That is fucking hilarious 😂

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u/indiblue825 Aug 17 '22

She needs condoms not Groupon

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u/EveningAlert1243 Aug 17 '22

She needs Groupon for the condoms

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u/jof78 Aug 17 '22 Silver

Single mum here wouldn’t dream of introducing my kids on a 1st date. Your response was polite and fair.

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u/turbodude69 Aug 17 '22 Helpful

not only is this a fucked up thing to spring on your date, but it seems kinda wrong to do to your kids.

"hey guys, get ready and be on your best behavior, we're going to meet a stranger from the internet" lol

that's just absurd to even think about. how the hell can anyone actually think that's a good idea??

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u/zfcjr67 Aug 17 '22

Even better is going out on a first date to be introduced as "your new daddy".

I was already a single dad and was very clear we shouldn't meet each other's kids right away. Luckily she didn't get a chance to introduce herself as my kids "new mommy".

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u/turbodude69 Aug 17 '22

i've been on plenty of dates with single moms and not once has any of them attempted to bring their kid on the 1st date. that's just insane...also in my experience with dating women with kids, they usually won't even introduce you until it's pretty certain that the relationship is serious.

which 100% makes sense. my parents are divorced and i remember my mom dating, it was weird and i don't think any kid is excited to meet a whole bunch of diff guys boning their mom.

sounds like there's a reason this woman has 4 kids and is single. sounds like she just doesn't give af about anything. i feel really bad for those kids 😕

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u/Serinus Aug 18 '22

She gives a fuck about free mini golf and dinner for five.

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u/A1B2B3A4 Aug 18 '22

Dayum straight. Happy cake day 🤝🏼

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u/Onlyanidea1 Aug 18 '22 edited Aug 18 '22

I had one once... Only found out when the place was 21 and older and she kept trying to get me to go Chuckee Cheese around the corner. They serve beer was her selling point.

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u/RuleAbidingShitpostr Aug 18 '22

Probably hoping OP will feed em all for free. + No babysitter needed

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u/mysoulishome Aug 17 '22

Guess what kids?!? We’ve got a date!

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u/kittyxandra Aug 18 '22

I was raised by a single mom and I didn’t realize it at the time but I went on lots of dates with her. She would always say we were meeting a “friend.” I didn’t think anything of it at the time, but looking back I can’t imagine how awkward those guys felt.

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u/arstin Aug 18 '22

but it seems kinda wrong to do to your kids.

Hey Kids - you can either stay home and watch whatever god-awful sport is on TV on Saturday at noon and eat mustard sandwiches while I protect you from the trauma of meeting my date, or you can come get free putt-putt and pizza while I watch you drain the interest from some poor guy's eyes.

Chorus of Kids: "Where's my shoes!?!"

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u/dkmrcc Aug 17 '22

Single father, and same x 10.

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u/summ190 Aug 17 '22 Silver Wholesome Giggle

FORTY kids?!

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u/Fruitjustlistens Aug 17 '22

Just wanted you know know that he fucks.

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u/spikyraccoon Aug 17 '22

And never uses Protection apparently...

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u/God_of_Trepidation Aug 17 '22 hehehehe

Pullout game weaker than US military in Afghanistan.

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u/Pandainachefcoat Aug 17 '22

Military Encrypted

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u/rnd2101 Aug 18 '22

US Military Encrypted

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u/Alarid Aug 18 '22 'MURICA

He thought it would be a quickie but then it turned into an 18 year commitment.

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u/Obsidian-Wolf-Knight Aug 18 '22

Can’t even pull out of the driveway.

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u/Brocyclopedia Aug 18 '22

His pizzas are charcoal

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u/Artistic_Reflection1 Aug 17 '22

40 kids, 40 moms.

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u/Oobedoob_S_Benubi Aug 17 '22

Or one mom who has had a horrible last three decades.

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u/Nerfixion Aug 18 '22 Helpful

I'm sure after the first 12 the rest just fall out like a conveyor belt

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u/gaynazifurry4bernie Aug 17 '22

40 kids, 40 moms.

Kid Nation is getting a reboot? Hot-diggity dog!

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u/pocketjacks Aug 17 '22

Elon or Nick Cannon?

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u/chbay Aug 17 '22

Philip Rivers is on pace for that, let’s not count him out just yet

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u/bigyellowoven Aug 17 '22

Thankfully found my match, but if a woman was interested in meeting the kids on the 1st date, that'd be a massive run-right-fucking-now flag

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u/Tanzanianwithtoebean Aug 17 '22

Single until a year ago Father. Didn't introduce her as my girlfriend until I was sure this thing was going to last. My kid doesn't need to get attached to somebody, and I'd like to get to really know each other while not being in parent mode.

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u/No_Network_9426 Aug 18 '22

I will have to go through this at some point. Ex wife and I divorced 4 years ago. She ended up marrying a guy who was a single dad of a girl who is a year older than my daughter. Ex wife and her now husband (who is a legit super good dude) dated for 6 months before meeting each other's kids, which I appreciated.

I haven't dated at all during this time, for a number of reasons, but will hopefully soon put myself back out in the dating market soon. Do you have any advice about how to know when to introduce a partner to my daughter? I know that my daughter is open to the idea, as she has (quite hilariously and always unprompted) asked me multiple times "when will find a wife"? She has said she wants a second mom just like she now has a second dad. Lol.

Anyway, any advice would be appreciated.

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u/Serinus Aug 18 '22

When you're confident there will be at least a couple more dates.

You don't have to be absolutely sure it'll work out, but it definitely needs to be heading that way.

Also going somewhere is less of a commitment than having her at your place.

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Thank you.

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u/Grimothy-Tang Aug 17 '22

Yes, very reasonable response to an ABSOLUTELY UNHINGED reply.

The 4 kids is one thing but "they will be with me"

WAT?!??!

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u/Bravisimo Aug 17 '22

Who wants to create a dating app called ‘Unhinged’ where you specifically date crazies? We can market it as the opposite of that trash dating site Hinge! It will literally market itself!

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u/litcanuk Aug 17 '22 edited Aug 18 '22

This is a terrible idea, when is the app due* for release?

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u/NorthernGoalie Aug 17 '22

I think she meant to imply she would be taking care of them on that weekend? I doubt she meant to take them all but who knows

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u/lklMendocino Aug 17 '22

Possible, hard to tell exactly. Either way it seems whether she meant they would be coming or not on the date, OP isn’t wanting 4 kids in his life. Totally fair.

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u/YourAnalCavitySpoon Aug 17 '22

Yea, this is something that requires disclosure in the profile. I mean, why waste the time of people who aren’t into kids in the short term.

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u/weewee52 Aug 17 '22

I also read it this way considering it looked like they went from discussing weeknights where OP is unavailable to a weekend. Still, either way, 4 previously undisclosed kids is…a lot.

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u/jebbikadabbi Aug 17 '22

OH! I did not read it this way at all. That makes more sense.

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u/Lilpops13 Aug 17 '22

You’ll be surprised what people pull on others

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u/freakers Aug 17 '22

I think I was watching the amazing race and there was a team who had been dating for months or probably longer and the guy hadn't met the woman's son yet. She didn't want her son to be introduced to anyone unless she was confident he was sticking around.

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u/The_last_of_the_true Aug 17 '22

That’s exactly what I did as a single father. I dated my current girlfriend for a few months and once we knew it had staying power I introduced her to my son. I don’t want my boy thinking it was normal for women to come in and out of my life and I also didn’t want any emotional trauma from him getting attached to someone and it didn’t work out.

We all live together now and she’s become a very important role model in his life and we’re in the process of her adopting him.

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Personally I'm not interested in dating a single parent but what you described is probably the best way to do it. Heck, I wish my mom had done that after my parents divorced.

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u/Dependent_Emu_580 Aug 17 '22

I didn’t introduce my daughter to my girlfriend for over a year. I don’t want anyone coming in and out of my daughters life.

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u/frenchiemyface Aug 17 '22

Hello person from my home town where these things are less than an mile from where I grew up

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Howdy, wanna go play some minigolf and get some pizza afterwards? Haha, jk.

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u/frenchiemyface Aug 17 '22

I wouldn't mind if I didn't live 500 miles away now. Also that frozen custard has the best vanilla coke you'll get anywhere

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u/lklMendocino Aug 17 '22

Agreed, single mom of 1 here and would never even cross my mind to involve my child in my dating. And it’s the first thing I have on my profile, that I’m a parent. You did the right thing and were very polite in your response to a sudden curve ball.

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u/Liathano_Fire Aug 17 '22

Yes, it's something I am always upfront about. I don't want to waste someone's time, and that includes my own.

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u/Own-Pineapple2507 Aug 17 '22

Single mom here of two and that’s crazy

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u/Accomplished_Yard984 Aug 17 '22

Being a single mom of 4 is totally the way to go and you’re in luck. I have two kids you can have.

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u/SnooPears219 Aug 17 '22

Single mom of 4. Not only would I not dream of ever doing this, I also have that I’m a mom in bio…bc uh those little shits are time consuming and explains why I’m always busy.

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u/Classy-Tater-Tots Aug 17 '22

Unfortunately, some take the approach of hiding the kids to try and get people hooked first.

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u/Liathano_Fire Aug 17 '22

Meeting date after date after date. I imagine their life isn't super stable.

-Also a single mom who wouldn't take her kids on a 1st date.

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u/12amoore Aug 17 '22

Also wouldn’t you be up front about it like after a few good texts of hitting it off so they know?

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u/new_skool_hepcat Aug 17 '22

I really appreciate the way you let her down, great way of handling it OP

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22 Silver Gold Wholesome Coin Gift Glow Up

Thank you that really means a lot. I have anxiety and I've put a lot of effort this last year into overcoming it through excercise, eating right, and actively trying to be a good person.

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u/AdSuperb1810 Aug 17 '22

Good for you bro. I mean it.

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

I truly appreciate the support.

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u/shorty0820 Aug 17 '22

Fox’s Pizza Den…..Myrtle beach?

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Nope, Indiana.

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u/frenchiemyface Aug 17 '22

Right next to Brookfield Heights where I grew up from when I was 6 to 26. Great taco pizza and I miss those batting cages. Never knew how lucky I was to grow up so close to that.

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

I've only been here for about a year but it does seem like a nice place to grow up. Way more to do than where I grew up lol.

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u/frenchiemyface Aug 17 '22

Tons of good people in that town. So I'm hoping that you're making lots of friends.

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

I'm kinda introverted. Though I did go to a bar last week which was the first time since I moved here. The waitress was really nice and wrote down a long list of places I need to check out. So I've got some opportunities ahead for sure.

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u/rdy_csci Aug 17 '22

and actively trying to be a good person.

This right here. Good for you. There are so many that claim to be good people, but do nothing actively to make sure that others perception of them matches.

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22 Silver Take My Energy

Thanks. I mean I just do little stuff like picking up trash or complimenting people's outfits when I'm out jogging but it gets me in the right headspace. Like if I keep doing little things that add value to the world it helps me find value in myself as a person.

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u/yeah-pickle Aug 17 '22

Keep going. We all need to do more of this.

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u/thisismenow1989 Aug 17 '22

Fuckin boo yah! You've given this random stranger on the internet some motivation to work on publishing this book. In the final stages, I just sometimes don't wanna.

Thanks for the inspiration and motivation, I can't let these authors down.

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Oh heck yeah man. I actually tried writing earlier this year and managed to finish a 90,000 word novel in about 3 months but the whole process took a lot out of me so I don't think I'll try that again. But you have 100% of my support. Don't be afraid to pace yourself but don't let your apathy or doubt keep you down like it did with me.

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u/JustARandomFuck Aug 17 '22

Super weird tangent compared to the post, but were there any noticeable differences for the anxiety when you worked on eating right?

I’ve got a whole range of MH conditions but I’ve eaten like shit my whole life and whilst I know eating better helps the MH, first hand accounts gimme something to look forward to yanno?

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

It was slow at first but yeah it's helped in the long run. Being mindful of what I eat and how much I eat were good tangible goals on trying to better myself. Between that and excercise I've lost 30 pounds since January and I've actually had a couple women in the last month or two approach me while shopping/jogging. Which has also helped a ton with my confidence. I'm not quite to the point of being ready to be the one initiate conversation in public but I'm a heck of lot closer than I was back in January.

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u/shoredoesnt Aug 17 '22

Are you doing this one your own or have you sought therapy?

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

On my own. My company has access to a free anonymous support hotline which I have a business card for on my fridge at home. I haven't felt the urge to call it yet but it helps knowing it's there if I need it.

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u/jiggawithatrigga Aug 17 '22

Couldnt have let her down any nicer than that

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u/WangChungtonight13 Aug 17 '22

First date: meet my brood!

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u/TampaTrey Aug 17 '22

Markula: “Release the brood.”

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u/Karyotics Aug 17 '22

Why did she say it like I have 4 kids? As if she’s asking a question lol

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

I don't know. This was about the full extent of our conversation and all of her replies ended in a question mark for some reason.

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u/KorbanReAllis Aug 17 '22 Gold Bravo!

Im Ron Burgundy?

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '22

“You know he reads everything on the teleprompter”

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u/KeisterApartments Aug 17 '22

Go fuck yourself, San Diego

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u/AyoBruh Aug 17 '22

Maybe that was her subtle way of acknowledging the silliness of her propositions.

“I’m gonna bring all 4 of my kids to a first date. That’s not weird, right?”

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Maybe? Someone else pointed out that it could've been her emojis failing to come through on my end.

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u/el-dongler Aug 17 '22

I'm on android and my wife has an iPhone. If I send her an emoji she only sees a question mark.

Has made for some funny texts. "I love you?"

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u/31ar 34/M A bit harsh, but i mean well! Aug 18 '22

That's a different kinda question mark though... Not a pure text one like this

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Lol, that would make sense.

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u/savingat30 Aug 17 '22

There might be one more coming.?

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u/TheBreathofFiveSouls Aug 17 '22

I think because the minigolf place said Family Fun

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u/AdHominemAuthority Aug 17 '22

It’s so annoying when people add the “?” Just to show upward inflection.

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u/Sublimity_Ult Aug 17 '22

4 kids. Dawg you picking her up in the school bus

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u/Ok_Shelter6614 Aug 17 '22 edited Aug 17 '22

At least she told you. I went on a date with this girl after about a week of texting. I said why don't we go to this little matinee show 6-9 at the replay. She said yes! I was pretty excited. I get there and we're having a few drinks. And this little kid comes up and says "mom (blank) hit me". I was just kind of confused at first. She went over to this small group of kids who were coloring on the concrete. When she came back she decided to tell me that she had 3 kids 😬😬. Kind of awkward.

As a single dad all I could think was that I hope that my baby mama would never do this with our kids.

Props on you for coming straightforward about it with her though. I think that shows a lot of character.

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Yeah at the very least I'm glad it came up before the date. Sorry for the awkward situation on your end.

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u/Variability Aug 17 '22

Don't leave us hanging, what happened next?

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u/Ok_Shelter6614 Aug 17 '22

Ope, my bad. We talked a bit as two responsible people should. She said she felt comfortable because it was a kid friendly environment and also that there were a lot of other people around. She also said that since I had kids she didn't think it was that big of deal. Which it wasn't really, just kind of an ohhhh by the way. A little heads up would have been nice. She also lied about her age which she had told me that evening too. Things were cordial but there was no second date. I felt like if that's how things are from day 1 it will only escalate into worse.

But the music was great 🤷‍♂️

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u/xcerealmilkx Aug 17 '22

Ah, a midwesterner!

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u/Ok_Shelter6614 Aug 17 '22

Let me scooch by ya real quick ha h

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u/chbay Aug 17 '22

But the music was great

Sounds like a solid F+ date!

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u/anony421 Aug 17 '22

Omg this happened to me once…. Only I was the kid and my dad brought me on a date. He had me sit at the bar as a 12 year old and read a book while they had dinner. 😭

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u/buckyspunisher Aug 18 '22

wtf? 12 years old is old enough to stay home alone for a few hours, is it not?

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u/Amazing-Physics-5345 Aug 17 '22

Turned from a 60-70$ date to a 3-400$ date real quick!! Dodged that bullet

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u/gayandipissandshit Aug 17 '22 Table Slap

How hungry are your kids?

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u/zenospenisparadox Aug 17 '22

For pizza?

There's no upper limit.

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u/Amazing-Physics-5345 Aug 17 '22

I don’t have any! I’m just exaggerating, but hey maybe her kids are all 21 and like to get drunk! There’s the $300! Haha!

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u/UnorignalUser Aug 17 '22

It wouldn't just be food. If they are going to a mini golf place there's probably also an arcade and the like. So she's probably going to expect him to buy her kids tickets to everything + food.

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u/crazyDiamnd67 Aug 17 '22

And with the immediate following text of "text me xxxxxx"

Confident play lol

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u/Pinkgumm Aug 18 '22

Reads more arrogant to me, op had a much nicer response than I would have gave her

"Lol pass"

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u/mtdunca Aug 18 '22

She trying to find someone to have that fifth kid with.

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u/Tazee333 Aug 17 '22

You did a very good job being respectful with firm boundaries. She did not have any clearly. Being a former single mom of two for 10 years no way i would do that on any planet. How disturbing and confusing for her children. Im just going to say it..that’s horrible parenting.

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

I appreciate your support, dating with anxiety is rough and I've been out of the game for awhile lol.

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u/PurpleAragorn Aug 17 '22 Helpful All-Seeing Upvote

Seems she has been to “Hole in One Family Fun” several times already

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u/MuggyTheMugMan Aug 17 '22

Hopefully she didnt bring the kids every time..

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u/peonypanties Aug 17 '22

The kids didn’t come, but she did…

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u/shoule79 Aug 18 '22

Not necessarily, but someone definitely did.

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u/MrX2285 Aug 17 '22

"I have 4 kids .?"

That punctuation absolutely kills me. What the fuck.

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u/Environmental_Ad8711 Aug 17 '22

As a mother, anyone introducing kids on a first date - huge red flag!

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u/vangard128 Aug 18 '22

I get the "I want you to pay for my kids to have a day out and then I will never call you again" vibe

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u/HundoHavlicek Aug 17 '22

That’s a little weird to introduce being a single Mother of 4 after she’s asked out. Is there no mention of those bundles of joy in her pics or profile?

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Nope. No mention of being a mom in her bio or photos with kids. That's why I was so caught of guard as I don't tend to date single moms as a personal preference.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '22

Sadly, I bump into this…. A LOT

At my age on Tinder (late 20s-early 30s), these apps got me feeling like ladies insist I be a step dad and they often don’t reveal they got a kid till a bit of messaging or even when I ask them out, like you just did lol

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u/GreenTurtle424 Aug 17 '22

A lot of men on tinder do it as well. I had one guy tell me about his THREE kids on the fourth date. All three from different women.

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u/[deleted] Aug 17 '22

Oh that’s not to say only ladies do it, I am just talking about my experience as a guy and just seeing all the “single momma” bios or lack thereof

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u/velmadarlingg Aug 17 '22

Yeah unfortunately there are people who will target single moms in order to get access to their kids. I never listed I was a mom in my profile (and huge red flag for either sex if they have their kids in their photos) but would disclose within a few messages. Never bothered me if that was a dealbreaker. But it’s not necessarily a bad thing if it’s not listed.

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u/ednichol Aug 17 '22

I’m swiping in my 30s on Tinder in the south. I just assume every woman on there is a single mother at this point.

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u/Thawk1234 Aug 18 '22

Hey man late 20’s dude in the south here. At this point any chick that is 26 and up I assume is a single parent lol

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u/flatdeadeyes Aug 17 '22

bundles of joy

I love how bitingly sarcastic this is

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u/WulfsigeX Aug 17 '22

She probably just wanted free dinner/mini golf for her and her kids lmao

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

Risky venture if you ask me lol. I mean I'm a decent human being but I can't vouch for everyone on the app.

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u/blaktronium Aug 17 '22

I can promise anyone out there trying to meet kids on Tinder is a bad, bad person.

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u/AnonymousMolaMola Aug 17 '22

I’m assuming she thinks her matches will take a nosedive if she mentions she has 4 kids in her bio. But it’d ultimately waste less time on both ends if she were upfront about it

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u/Banglatiger Aug 17 '22

The kids will be like…are you our new daddy.

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u/TheStarchild Aug 18 '22

“No, just your mother’s.”

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u/National_Ad_1872 Aug 17 '22

She's not looking for love she's looking for help.

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u/JWRK1198 Aug 17 '22

Not one or a couple, but FOUR undisclosed children that will be tagging along on a date... Makes me wonder if she's done this before without even telling the guy

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u/HuckleberryThis2012 Aug 17 '22

4 kids is a LOT, but that’s not even the biggest red flag there. Taking your kids to meet a guy for a first date is the biggest red flag ever. What kind of mom introduces kids to random men so they can start to get attached early on only for it to end? That’s wild. I dated a woman with a kid years ago, and we dated for about 7 months and I never met her kid. Bc she wasn’t risking that for her son, that’s the way to do it.

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u/Scared-Replacement24 Aug 17 '22

Pizza and mini golf sounded too kid friendly ig lol

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

That's what I get for not drinking alcohol or coffee I guess, lol.

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u/savingat30 Aug 17 '22

You’re not alone! Ice cream dates are my favorite.

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u/AmbeeGaming Aug 17 '22

You don’t need to drink Coffee 😂 invite someone out for Coffee get a drink. I normally get a mocha or hot chocolate one time I got a lemonade. If your coffee shop only sells coffee get a new one lol

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u/Raidoalgiz Aug 17 '22

I was mostly making a bad self depreciating joke lol. I've gone on one coffe shop date this year and ended up getting a hot cocoa too. But you're right, I should put coffe shops back on the potential date list.

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u/misterguyyy Aug 17 '22

At least she didn't just bring them. So you've got that going for you, which is nice.

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u/tmuscles Aug 17 '22

Yes that's an instant block. 🤣

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u/Annual_Promotion Aug 17 '22

LOL. Either you live right by me or Fox's Den Pizzas are always located near miniature golf place. This is wild. It wouldn't happen to also be right next a major highway and a large grocery store would it? HA.

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u/animalxinglala0512 Aug 17 '22

Good thing she told you in the chat though. Can you imagine if she just showed up with all of her kids?!?

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u/MysteriousTruck6740 Aug 17 '22 edited Aug 17 '22

I ain't sayin' she's a gold digger...

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u/LadyEmeraldDeVere Aug 17 '22

“… four kids And I gotta take all they bad ass to ShowBiz?”

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u/_jackhoffman_ Aug 17 '22 edited Aug 17 '22

She seems like a pretty good digger to me. Dug herself a 4-kid hole so deep she can't go on dates without them.

edit: my comment made more sense before they edited theirs to fix their good vs gold typo.

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u/Disastrous_While_175 Aug 17 '22

You sir dodge a 50 cal bullet..

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u/Stravok182 Aug 17 '22

Yeah this kinda comes off as her hoping she'd get a free night out with her kids. You did the right thing imo.

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u/Talik1978 Aug 17 '22

But I'm lookin' for the one, have you seen her? My psychic told me she have a ass like Serena Trina, Jennifer Lopez, four kids And I gotta take all they bad ass to ShowBiz?

Okay, get yo' kids, but then they got their friends I pulled up in the Benz, they all got a pen We all went to din' and then I had to pay If you fuckin' with this girl then you better be paid You know why?

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u/animetixxies Aug 17 '22

I'd say this response was appropriate. if you're seriously thinking about dating someone and they have A kid, it's a lot of responsibility on it's own

now 4? that is too much for a lot of people, and you had quite a mature response