r/TooAfraidToAsk Jun 21 '22

Meta Introducing the Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) wiki!



We just set up an initial version of a Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) wiki. You can check it out here .

This is something we've been working on for awhile. Special shoutout to /u/stillcouldbeworse for actually finally getting it up and running! This initial version is pretty short to keep it simple and avoid breaking anything, but we expect to be adding to it regularly now that it's up and running. We'll of course be mentioning it in the sidebar or the full wiki as well.

Since this is the first public iteration, you can expect some tweaking as we figure out how to best utilize it. Features/questions/formats might change. And now is probably a good time to ask a few questions for the community-

What are some things you want to see in the FAQ wiki?

How do you want to see the FAQ wiki utilized? (ie, should automod sticky a comment linking to the FAQ wiki? filter out FAQs?)

How should it be sourced? Should it link to existing posts (either in this sub or another), external sources?

What threshold do you consider acceptable to be a FAQ?

Any other requests/ideas/questions?
And last- while one of the goals here is to help promote a bit more variety in OPs, it is still NOT OK to question-shame FAQs. You can direct them to the FAQ wiki, but do so politely and kindly. You will get a ban, per Rule 1, for rude replies to questions. We get that FAQ posts can be a bit annoying for longtime users, but we still expect you to be polite about it.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 20d ago

Meta Some updates for the sub



Just wanted to give a quick update on the state of the subreddit and discuss a few things that we get messages on fairly frequently.

sexual questions

This is by and far the most common complaint that we receive in our mod mail. As it stands, we have zero plans to remove sexual questions on the basis of them being sexual. We do however, remove questions that break Reddits rules regarding age restrictions as well when questions are clearly being asked by users for sexual gratification rather than curiosity.

I’d like to remind everyone that Reddit, as a site, is a text and link aggregator. As such, it is not our responsibility to curate the front page for anything other than content that breaks our rules or Reddits rules. I have painstakingly documented how to filter Reddit so that your experience can be tailored to what you want and I highly recommend you take a look at it and try it out if you’re finding these posts frustrating enough to want to write in.

repetitive posts

Another common complaint and one we certainly are trying to take seriously. We opened up an FAQ project to try and compile some of these questions but user input is greatly appreciated! If you have some time and want to commit a few thoughts, please feel free to comment over there!


We have successfully brought on 3 mods who are up to speed and an excellent addition to the mod team. If we have a need for more, we will consider bringing in more at a future date.

missed end of year rewards

My sincerest apologies but I missed the deadline to apply for post rewards for our sub for the last year as I have been extremely busy irl. We have some saved up coins and will plan for a mid-summer smaller giveaway with the community then.


Finally, I wanted to clarify that we are very invested in combating the bot situation. We have brought on two different automated bot mods to ban known bots compiled within a large group of subreddits. The results have been…. Surprising to say the least. There are an incredible number of bots that submit posts and comments ranging from copy-pasting old posts to fully engaging with users. Reddit admins themselves are looking into various ways they can assist subs with these issues and we are hopeful there will be a better solution in due time.

If you have any questions, comments, criticisms etc always feel free to write in or leave a comment. Any of us are more than happy to discuss.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 12h ago

Politics Why is J.K Rowling in particular getting targetted for her depiction of goblins as greedy bankers when that's the most common depiction of them across all fantasy and scifi-fantasy?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 9h ago

Culture & Society Would you travel to the Middle East as a solo female?


I have a potentially amazing work opportunity, but it would require some travel to the Middle East - in the education sector so I’m not anticipating to necessarily be just in touristy places if I’m going to schools.

Really don’t want this to come across as racist but I all I have heard is that it is an “unsafe” part of the world and I don’t know how true that is.

ETA: Thanks for all the responses so far! Really appreciate those of you that have mentioned specific countries, it’s given me a good question to ask my potential future employer.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Mental Health do you ever look in the mirror and think "am I even me?"?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 21h ago

Sexuality & Gender Why aren’t women required to sign up for the draft at 18 in the US?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 23h ago

Culture & Society Why are Americans so obsessed with their slavery-related history?


Isn't it quite a common thing around the planet? Literally most countries have tried to invade other countries, killed other races and enslave them.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 5h ago

Culture & Society Why does most of the Southern Hemisphere live in poverty?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 1d ago

Sexuality & Gender why are girls often shamed for wanting to date tall guys?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Health/Medical How worried should I be about my bio dad's putting up sticky notes around his house with very, very basic instructions for himself?


Someone just mentioned that their great-grandma did the same thing while in the early stages of dementia.


  1. He's not going to answer honestly if I ask him about this.

  2. He had a stroke a couple of years ago. He has trouble remembering names sometimes.

  3. I was unnerved by the post-its and don't think they're about that, though, because they went up a while after the stroke. And they're not names. They're instructions about tasks like answering the door.

  4. That being said, his live-in girlfriend (ex-girlfriend? I never know anymore) is more batshit than the mess on the floors of caves in Kenya. For all I know, they could be for her somehow.

  5. His handwriting, though.

  6. He was recently forcibly retired from work. I'd assumed it was about struggling with names. But he never did say exactly why.

  7. He's in his late 60s.

  8. He's used post-it notes for shit like this before. When I was little, he tried to learn Spanish by putting up notes on things with Spanish/English translations.

  9. But that stopped a long time ago. (He accidentally offended a visitor who thought he was just racist and assuming they didn't know English. 💀💀💀 )

  10. He doesn't seem to be forgetting things during conversations, but he's seemed extremely sad and depressed lately. I'm not sure why. He hated that job, he's financially set for life, and this should theoretically be the first true, unlimited freedom and relaxation he's had in decades.

I wish he would answer honestly, so I could just fucking ask him about this.

I also wish his gf wasn't nuttier than a 3-car pileup between semis from the peanut butter, almond milk, and payday candy bar factory, so I could just fucking ask her about this.

But I also wish I had a free pony that shit Rolexes. So yknow.

Thanks for any/all opinions, advice, or reality checks about this. Including personal experiences with aging family.

I'll be very happy if I'm paranoid and worried about nothing.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 59m ago

Ethics & Morality how come you can’t purposely consent to sex when drunk, but you can purposely SA someone when drunk?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 2h ago

Drugs & Alcohol How much coke is a safe amount to do occasionally?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 32m ago

Other Is it too late or can i do something?


Im turning 26 in april

Living in the uk

Growing up i hated school and didn't try real hard, but now im older i really wanna strengthen my math skills, not that i cant do basic math but i want to be able to not struggle with complex math problems, i guess i just realized how being more efficient with math can actually open up more opportunities for you later on in life

I did get a qualification however wasn't exactly a pass when i sat my GCSE's in school, i even finished college and got a merit and distinction in a btec course, which then i followed up with 2 years on a uni foundation degree course however didn't finish or do my dissertation and left (dont know if i got anything out of that, wouldn't even know how to check)

is there anyway to resit a maths gcse or pay to take a maths test now? Do i need to? Its not like i cant learn and practice on my own using the web which is what ive been doing anyway, plus im actually interested now and kind of enjoy it but getting it all to stick and memorizing everything is the tricky part

If i wanted to just get a higher maths qualification as an adult in the UK, how do i do it?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 57m ago

Culture & Society What are typical signs of a Female Abuser/Pedo?


There are alot of stereotypes around male pedos or SA perpertrators.

What are some red flags for women who hurt kids or are violent woth those close to them?

I think its easier for a woman to 'get close to' kids without drawing suspicion.

Female domestic abusers seem to be able to avoid responsibilty by claiming to be the victim.

Ik its a bit of a loaded topic, but i feel its quite hard to understand what others think.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Other What’s with all the hate with Dasani water?


Personally I think they taste great. But water is water at the end of the day so the hatred kind of confuses me a little.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 7h ago

Race & Privilege Is it Racist to not want to call people “black”?


I’ve always wanted focus more on someone’s specific physical traits rather than “race” but I was called racist in school for expressing this opinion and was even technically attacked for it. For example I would much rather call someone who you might call “black” as someone who has a dark skin tone. There’s probably going to come a time when “races” will become much more mixed and then what are we gonna do? This also applies to all “races”. Maybe there’s something I’m not seeing here.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 4h ago

Politics Why does china care about Taiwan?


It’s just a little island. So they want to be their own country, who cares?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 1h ago

Other In todays horrible economy, if someone is in a position to need a loan, what’s the best way to go about it?


Long story short, my disabled grandparents need to move in with my wife and I within the next 60 days. To do this, we will need to finish our basement, and get our back deck torn down and re-built bigger, and with a handicap ramp.

We have enough in savings to do one of these projects, but not both.

We are planning on paying for the basement finish/remodel in cash, and then getting a loan for deck/ramp.

What are some tips or tricks to make this not horrible?

r/TooAfraidToAsk 8m ago

Animals & Pets Why do Redditors give pet owners unwarranted advice?


r/TooAfraidToAsk 9m ago

Love & Dating Does anyone experience performance anxiety before hooking up for the first time in a while?


Haven’t been laid for quite some time, i’ve had many opportunities to get laid though but I feel like I always turn them down or make an excuse of why I can’t because i’m for some reason getting anxious and nervous when I’m getting close to getting some. I’ve obviously had sex many times before but haven’t for about 5 months. I have an opportunity to tonight but for some reason I keep getting cold feet and worrying about performance even though i’ve never really before. Any tips? Serious answers only.

r/TooAfraidToAsk 3h ago

Culture & Society Why do we attribute Darwin with idiots?


I’ve seen this phenomenon so many online. There could be a video of someone doing something very stupid, and people will say that the person has won the Darwin award, obviously an award referring to the person’s stupidity. But why do we associate Charles Darwin with stupid people? Didn’t he put forward the evolutionary theory? He wasn’t stupid, so why are there these “awards”? Are there actual awards in the first place?