Things my boyfriend thinks prove I am cheating on him

[u/Spiritual-Magician80]

1. I put some make-up on for "no apparent reason" while going out, definitely to go meet a man. (I was getting groceries and feeling enough cute to put eyeliner on).

2. I shaved while he was away for a week, definitely for another man. ( I hate when it gets long).

3. I wore too fancy dress to just meet my female friend, must have been a man instead.

4. Told him to stay home instead of going to meet the said friend, definitely because she was a he. I havent seen her in ages and just wanna be alone with her)

5. I got mad when he scrolled through entire of my gallery, definitely because I was hiding smth. (Privacy,bruh)

6. yOU dONt sLEep with mE aNyMoRE. ( I got on the anti baby pill and I feel like a shoe, so maybe thats why.)

So you hear it ladies, there is only one reason to dress up, or take care of yourself. Its all for the men and men only. Because our only desire and goal in life is to please the male audience. Of course not all men are like this, and my bf is kinda potato, this is just a rant

EDIT: wow that blew up way more i expected! First. Thank you all for your kind words. It truly left me speechless how many internet stranger found so much love and care for me in their hearts. I cried a bit, but those were happy tears. I am really touched. I cant reply to all the comments but I will try to read them all!

Second. Some stories you have shared are truly heartbreaking. Its just so sick this is happening to so many people. I am sorry that happened to you and you have my sympathies. Also, some of you may be in the same situation I am in, so please, read some of the advice here. If I can run, you can too. I believe in you, you are strongenough to face it!

Third. Many of you suggested he is cheating on me. While I cant rule out this possibility, I dont think its the case. He is just very insecure. For the past 2 years our country was basically closed. No school, no open caffees, cinemas, nothing. So he became used me being home all the time. Now, when eveything is opening, I can finally spread my wings again. I can legally drink, i can travel, I can do whatever I want. And he thinks he may lose me because he cant keep up. He is just not as adventurous as I am and thats okay.

BIG however tho. This does not justify his behaviour. Thanks to some people here, I may finally find the courage to slap this in his face. I will tell him how his comments make me feel and tell him that he needs to get his shit together or he will not be losing girl over another man, but over his own bullshit and lack of communication skills.

I still love him and he is huge part of my life. But Iam trying to love myself more. So he either get his act fixed or he will be losing most of the kitchen utensils, a dog, and one wonderful woman. I just believe he deserves a chance for redemption.

Also I am not as dependent on him, I get child support from my dad and I have a job while he is fully funded by mommy. So moving out would be hard, but not impossible:)

Thank you for caring and stay safe!

EDIT2: For everyone still wondering why I just dont dump him in the trash straight away. You guys gave me lots of things to think about. Things I want to discuss with him first. Its a big step and I just dont wanna break something, just because someone on the internet said so. I still appreciate all the advice, its nice to see a view from outside. Nothing is black and white though. Also I can and I will kick ass, if necessary. I just wont rush to conclusions.

[u/elevenfifteennine]

You need to communicate with him.

Yes, these things can be red flags or signs he might be projecting his own actions on to you - or it could be something else entirely. Jumping straight to assuming he's cheating, and not talking about it will just worsen the situation.

Humans are weird, and the best thing you can do is to communicate.

Tell him his words and actions are upsetting you, because you have nothing to hide from him and it feels insulting. Ask him where all this is coming from.

If you love this person, and want to be with them you need to be on the same page. If the discussion isn't productive, or he keeps derailing it with accusations, then yes it might be time to move on. You'll never know though if you guys don't talk.