Unless the relationship is super new and/or your SO is super insecure about something, couples should feel comfortable enough communicating this type of stuff. Otherwise you end up eating that particular poor tasting burnt meal every week for years and you can't say anything about it later because they thought you loved it and they've cooked it for you so many times and their shock and embarrassment will only grow over time once they finally find out and you'll eventually resign yourself to feeling that small indignity of resentment every week until you have your kids and raise them until they're old enough to finally put this charade to an end because kids have absolutely no fucking chill and will call even perfectly fine meals garbage and then it'll all come out and maybe, just maybe, you'll have the spine to pretend to begrudgingly agree with your kid because someone is finally there to split the ire but even still your SO will feel unappreciated and you're going to end up in the shithouse either cooking everything yourself or having bland plates passive-aggressively thumped down in front of you for the indefinite future until the tension finally becomes too much and they ask for a trial separation but you know it's not going to work once she's gone she's gone and for the rest of your life you'll learn to carry that grief and regret in your well-meaning hands trying to stop the wondering of what might have been if only you'd just learned to communicate before it all fell tragically apart.
Anyway, I guess what I'm saying you should learn to diplomatically let them know that they somehow managed to burn their pasta water.
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u/theshizzler 24d ago edited 24d ago
Unless the relationship is super new and/or your SO is super insecure about something, couples should feel comfortable enough communicating this type of stuff. Otherwise you end up eating that particular poor tasting burnt meal every week for years and you can't say anything about it later because they thought you loved it and they've cooked it for you so many times and their shock and embarrassment will only grow over time once they finally find out and you'll eventually resign yourself to feeling that small indignity of resentment every week until you have your kids and raise them until they're old enough to finally put this charade to an end because kids have absolutely no fucking chill and will call even perfectly fine meals garbage and then it'll all come out and maybe, just maybe, you'll have the spine to pretend to begrudgingly agree with your kid because someone is finally there to split the ire but even still your SO will feel unappreciated and you're going to end up in the shithouse either cooking everything yourself or having bland plates passive-aggressively thumped down in front of you for the indefinite future until the tension finally becomes too much and they ask for a trial separation but you know it's not going to work once she's gone she's gone and for the rest of your life you'll learn to carry that grief and regret in your well-meaning hands trying to stop the wondering of what might have been if only you'd just learned to communicate before it all fell tragically apart.
Anyway, I guess what I'm saying you should learn to diplomatically let them know that they somehow managed to burn their pasta water.