I can’t help but think of how traumatizing it would be had he not made the catch. Having to relive someone falling through your arms to their death would be rough.
You're thinking through the viewpoint of a savior, this person didn't want to be saved. He shouldn't have felt guilt if he didn't save them but at some point we need to respect people's decision to opt out.
Can you imagine telling someone who has just had a human slip through their arms that they shouldn’t feel guilt? Objectively, hell no they shouldn’t, they’re a hero for trying. But the human brain is rarely objective in these extreme situations.
True story. I tried to save someone I loved from the addiction cycle. They slipped right through my hands and died when I was away for a short time. The guilt of failing makes me want to die every single day.
Hey there
Just wanted to let you know another human cares and is proud of you for how hard you tried. Addiction is so hard. Please seek someone to talk about this with so that you aren't carrying this guilt forever. Your life is important and has value and I'm sure the person you cared about would want to see you thriving not hurting. Just. Your life and efforts matter and its okay for you to work on being okay and for it to hurt and not be easy so . don't give up and know that I heard you. I see you. I'm here. Reach out if you need etc.
I love how people think it's something you can fix or will get better. It's not. The world we live in is a vile and corrupted place. Look how many young people turn to addiction and suicide because they have simply have no hope. It's sickening beyond the power of words to describe.
It really is. I wish there were some way to get the entire world on board with caring for one another more and taking the time to understand one another's struggles. Nobody is an island and nobody should feel that way be it by access to care, ousting by society, poverty, mental health issues etc.
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u/oouzy Aug 13 '21
I can’t help but think of how traumatizing it would be had he not made the catch. Having to relive someone falling through your arms to their death would be rough.