I can’t help but think of how traumatizing it would be had he not made the catch. Having to relive someone falling through your arms to their death would be rough.
You're thinking through the viewpoint of a savior, this person didn't want to be saved. He shouldn't have felt guilt if he didn't save them but at some point we need to respect people's decision to opt out.
Can you imagine telling someone who has just had a human slip through their arms that they shouldn’t feel guilt? Objectively, hell no they shouldn’t, they’re a hero for trying. But the human brain is rarely objective in these extreme situations.
the best way to comfort a failed savior is to remind them that the deceased made their choice and sometimes, no matter how hard you try and wish it different: you simply can't save people from themselves.
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u/oouzy Aug 13 '21
I can’t help but think of how traumatizing it would be had he not made the catch. Having to relive someone falling through your arms to their death would be rough.