people wanna do what "looks good" and not what "does good" because doing good is effort. and honestly in a lot of cases they just have no power to help in a meaningful way. the best they can do is to donate to a few charities. which in some cases don't really help people at all and are scams a lot of times (not always)
Alright, so what’s your idea for how people can help then? Just gotta do your research and happen to find a good charity where the earnings go to a good cause. Donating to charity is an inherentlygood thing. This just seems like textbook pessimism to me.
Regardless of whether or not people do good things just because it makes them “look good” or because they genuinely care, if that action can actually help people and others can benefit from, why does it matter?
but half the time i've talked to people they don't have the faintest idea and blamed me for "not putting effort to make my life better" when they don't see how much freaking effort i put.
maybe helping them when they're feeling horrible? maybe doing their groceries or doing something when they're just unable to do anything.
for money there's a lot of gofundme pages about people (sadly a lot of young people..) trying to get out of abusive households. i always wanted to donate to one despite needing money myself. but we don't have credit cards here.
let them know their pain is heard.
educate yourself about mental heath and all that. educate yourself about what helps and doesn't help someone in crisis.
honestly if I got a penny for every time i've been sent a crisis line phone number i'd be rich. and if you know the person they usually don't wanna care they dont' listen. I hate getting those crisis numbers. they're pretty much only for people in the US and even if you're in the US don't do much. they feel like more a slap in the face to me.
sadly a lot of this falls on the shoulders of governments who don't give a shit about people.
if I wasn't so broken sad and hopeless i'd write something proper and longer. but maybe start by googling "how to help someone with mental disorders, going trough a rough time"
even those horrible wikihow articles already show the average person a lot more then they know.
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