Boundaries

[u/PointIll5381]

Throwaway. DH and I disagree about boundaries with his ex (HCBM). As in her waiting until the middle of the night to bring up issues and him responding. She has repeatedly gone after me and I’m not one to back down which has caused conflict over the years. These messages not only (but mostly) pertain to their child, but seriously, she can’t communicate during normal hours (when HCBM is sober)? She knows of any and any all potential conflicts and waits. DH doesn’t really see an issue. Tell me your stories about establishing boundaries or not having proper boundaries with HCBM.

[u/Lumber_Tycoon]

Why are you messaging an ex late at night? The reason doesn't really matter, but why would you think that was appropriate behavior?

After hours time spent conversing with friends is a thing mature adults do.

Your late night "convo" with your ex was inappropriate because he's your ex. Jfc.

[u/Lumber_Tycoon → u/[deleted]]

The only conflict was you deliberately texting an ex to start a fight with your SO.

[u/tellallnovel → u/Lumber_Tycoon]

OP asked for personal stories of solving a specific conflict. I shared what I did in my personal life. It wasn't put up here for you to use it to try and jump down my throat, which is why I took it down. It worked for me. If you don't like how I did it, share your own story, or your own advice, but don't attack me.