Really depends on what you’re buying. I don’t eat meat, can't have dairy and the only beverage I drink aside from the odd glass of wine or can of sparkling water, is coffee.

Groceries aren't cheap in Canada and it certainly varies depending on where you live and shop. I also have a Costco membership for certain things and since Im one person, those purchases can really stretch for a long time. The last time I went in I grabbed 4 items and itll take me a few months to go through those (cat litter aside since, ya know, thats not a food item). $13 for a 1.46kg bag of walnuts and $13.99 for a bottle of Avocado oil which I think was 1.5L.

If I really budget and shop seasonally, I could probably eat for like $200-250 per month. Mind you, Im 5'3 so Im not going to be consuming as much food as a 6' 200lb dude.

It doesn’t matter how amazing he is when he’s sober. The fact of the matter is that he’s shown, repeatedly, he doesn’t stay that way. You don’t date/marry/commit to someone because of the 20% you love when the remaining 80% is not only shit, but highly unreliable and unpredictable shit. It just doesn’t work that way.

Also, I say this respectfully, consider counselling if you can afford it. Not with him, alone. There were some giant red flags from the beginning based on your description. Continuing in spite of them is concerning.

I live in KW (greater GTA) and the rent in Calgary is… excellent, from what I’ve found. Far more options than most places in Ontario. Strongly considering moving there. Normal 1 bedroom here is $1500 median, hell, some bachelors are around there as well unless you’re living in a basement with no windows.

Thank you! :)

You’ve definitely piqued my interest. I may reach out via message if that’s okay. This sounds absolutely up my alley - I am a complete nerd about planning, preparedness and future considerations.

I’ve been considering delving deeper into research about this. Currently work in a project management office as a systems admin/technical writer but I have a background in customer service and administrative coordination. Some of the project managers I’ve worked with are absolute dumpster fires and I’ve been looking to get into management. My strengths lie in organizing people and data, so it seems like a decent fit.

Lmao. Truth.

Very interesting. Currently working as a systems admin and technical writing is a large component of my job. No cloud experience beyond being familiar with how to use it but good to know. I’d like to transition away from non profit organization for my next job change, since there’s no real money to be made. Experience is brilliant though.

Ooh. This is very interesting to me. Background as an administrative coordinator, currently working as a systems admin and have a keen interest in ux design. What are your certifications and what exactly does your job entail, if you don’t mind me asking?

Judging other people’s emotional competence and/or emotional availability, who you don’t know, based on comments left in an online forum is perhaps telling that you have some work to do on yourself.

You didn’t even phrase it as a question or possibility. Just flat out decided that someone interested in this type of relationship has emotional issues they’ve likely neglected.

Thank you for being a voice of reason in this thread because my god, the ignorance in some of these comments. Heaven forbid a relationship differ from what someone expects, it must mean we’re all emotionally stunted and devoid of the ability to commit. Smh.

Have you read the comments under this thread? If you had, you’d know that your reply is rubbish.

Just because this doesn’t fit into the idea of what you consider to be a suitable romantic relationship doesn’t mean that everyone feels that way. If this isn’t for you, I’d recommend going elsewhere because quite frankly, your comment is useless and judgmental.

I think it’s possible to prefer the situation you’ve described without being an avoidant. I enjoy spending time with my partner when I have one, very much. I wouldn’t be opposed to 3-6 days a week depending on the circumstances. I have no problem with emotional involvement or intimacy, I just really enjoy having my own independent space. Even something as simple as not having to consider whether someone else will like/appreciate the style of an item I want to bring into my home - that brings me immense joy.

I don’t have an issue with compromise and don’t have a strict set of “must haves” but when it comes to the ideal, optimized space for me to exist in? That space would be my very own.

Some who prefer separate living arrangements will absolutely be avoidants or emotionally detached. But I think people often forget that as a society, we’re quite conditioned to believe that there’s a “normal” type of romantic relationship and straying from that norm isn’t something many people give much thought to, even though I think some relationships could seriously benefit from an adjustment to something outside the “norm”.

Generally, thank you for this forum prompt! It’s been refreshing to see many like minded individuals :)

This sounds ideal to me as well! I’m really loving this thread, reading comments from many like minded individuals :)

31f here and very much the same! It’s nice to hear this from the opposite sex, particularly in a similar age range. Thanks for chiming in :)

I feel very similarly, if not the same. I have no plans to have children, I enjoy my personal space and am very self sufficient.

I am open to cohabitating but I would welcome a situation where we each have our separate places, particularly if we’re quite different in terms of energy level. I’m a quiet person overall and I enjoy a household that is the same. Often times I don’t have on background noise, as I truly enjoy silence. Don’t get me wrong, I also enjoy a lack of silence but I’m sensory particular (ADHD, relate to many ASD traits) and that can make cohabitating difficult if I don’t have my own separate place that I can go to decompress. I’ve lived with a partner before and it wasn’t a terrible experience but it required a great deal of compromise in many areas. My apartment is tidy and optimized in a way that is very suited to me.

I do have hope that I’ll find a similarly suited partner. I enjoy close physical proximity and miss affectionate touching but I do very much appreciate my time alone.

I’m not particularly keen on the idea of non monogamy, although I don’t have any moral qualms with the concept. Perhaps I’ll meet someone who may change my mind on this but it has yet to happen.

Your profile reads as though you’re either an absolute moron or you are somewhere on the spectrum. Honestly it seems like a mix of the two because your “incidents” at work can’t possibly be caused by simply not being able to pick up on social cues. It’s either that or bullshit, exaggerated stories you’re posting for internet attention. Which… I’m kind of leaning towards.

How do you have repeat experiences of a similar nature? Do you truly not think things through before you act? Just… wow.

You’re right. Who needs the 30% of the Albertan population that hasn’t been vaccinated yet? Human lives and the stress on the healthcare providers and systems that have to watch them die slowly, pfffft. They don’t matter. /s

If these stats are true (I’m on mobile, haven’t verified the numbers), keep in mind that we don’t really protect society from the flu. Everyone does their usual thing, inside, with no masks. Typically during a time of year where we’re primarily inside.

This was not the case with Covid. Kids have been wearing masks, social distancing happened, schools were closed for awhile to in person classes, etc.

The comparison is unfair and not at all the same. I agree that the response has to be measured but this example is not comparable.

Not anymore. With Delta, the lead time has been reduced to 2-3 days. Normal Covid was typically 5-7 days for presentation/viral load to be high enough for detection.

Yeah, I think I already knew I was going to cancel when I heard the news. Just didn’t want to fully admit it yet sigh.

Westjet better extend that damn balance. The money for this trip was from my cancelled trip to Spain in February 2020. It’s almost comical except it isn’t.

Seemed decent to me but that was just a preliminary search and I live in Ontario so, not the best source of info. I’m also not sure how competitive the market is in terms of # if positions vs. those vying for those positions.

I'm so disappointed. I was scheduled to travel to Calgary on August 18th, first ever solo vacation and I truly don't know how to feel about this.

I'm double vaccinated but this is unbelievably irresponsible. No masking, no restrictions, not even on public transit. I've only started to get comfortable in indoor public spaces MASKED. How the fuck am I going to feel travelling to a province where they've lifted everything all at once? With, if I'm not mistaken, the lowest vaccination rate of any province in Canada.

My parents will have been double vaccinated for a few weeks by the time I was set to arrive back from my trip, but neither of them are in excellent health. My dumbass sister has chosen not to be vaccinated, same with her husband and they have 2 children under 12. I do not want to have to worry about killing off my only remaining family because Kenney and the health officials in Alberta are fucking stunned.

I'm so livid about this and I don't even live in Alberta. I'm so sorry guys, this is fucked.

This is brilliant, thank you!

I think your intuition is 1000% spot on. I’ve noticed a trend of people regurgitating what they see on social media without fully considering the actual situation at hand. It’s like their brain goes, “Yeah this is in the same vein, case closed” and that’s it.

In general, I’m not a fan of PITA people. I get wanting to weed out prospective shitty/lazy dates but if you’re not moderately chill when no actual issues have occurred, it’s my sign to get the hell outta dodge before the full blown bullshit begins.