Im afraid this would push them away though: no guests in the house? Ok, they’ll try to hang out elsewhere (that may or may not be as safe as your home).

Or is fallen down one of those Uber conservative congregations.

That means your wife has known your niece since she was 10, a literal child.

Yep, the cheating is absolutely awful but this is a different level of fucked up. u/throwra_ruenum your wife has a veeery loose moral compass to say the least if she’s fucking someone she’s had an almost maternal relationship with. The age difference and power dynamic make this absolutely not recoverable.

You deserve someone better. Make them both get out of your life.

For that u type of opening: Kelty Redwing 44, Patagonia Blackhole 32, or REI Trail 40.

Thanks for sharing!

Maria was great, shame it closed.

That said, I’ve seldom found good pastor outside of Mexico City, let alone mexico. No good trompos.

Dude wtf.

If this is an isolated incident, I’d say demand and apology and move on but she seems to be hurting you for real with these “pranks” and she knows it.

She is abusive. It will only escalate.

Estimate your TDEE and count your calories. Doesn’t need to be forever but it sounds like you’re running a surplus (ie, bulking), maybe also try to increase your protein and water intake. Monitor for two weeks and see where you are.

Sorry for misleading you. I was thinking god this one, the overhaul!

https://www.thenorthface.com/shop/overhaul-40-nf0a3eth

There are so many reasons for being against sex work.

You absolutely lower your value to quality men when you prostitute yourself.

But this is a moronic take. Women exist outside men. Not everything a woman does is to get a man and our value doesn’t depend on “good quality men”.

Yeah you downgraded volume by quite a bit. I mean, I travel long term with a 25L bag and 40L seems massive for EDC for me but if were happy with the larger volume, maybe something in that range would be better. The Northface Vault is 40L and pretty great.

Another piece of advice is to try it—not all bags fit everyone the same even if you’re getting the right size.

It’s funny that you people have so little going for you in life that you’re OK with giving it up instead of taking a vaccine.

NTA.

The mom is crazy to think she’s entitled to free child entertainment for her spawn from fellow passengers. If she wants her kid entertained, she needs to plan ahead. I hate parents like that.

If it helps, I do think some parents take a while to enjoy their kids (there’s some research that this is particularly true for those who have their first kid after age 35) and it’s not until their kids are actual developed humans with their own personalities that the bonding happens. Until then, keep using your support system to get some breathing room.

I know it’s not easy and don’t want to belittle your struggle because it’s orders of magnitude from where I am but after years of wanting a dog I got one, she’s amazing so much people not only comment on how cute she is but on her great temperament and the great bond she has with mr. Yet, I don’t feel it and now hate my life. It’s not the hard work like you said but the entrapment and emotional work and I’m not sure I’m getting as much in return—I reckon I’m probably more selfish than average but I’m also very responsible so this means I do everything I need to do with my dog (training, meals, bonding time, walks, etc) because I’m responsible but I’m also feeling angry and even resentful because I’m selfish s d think I have to do It.

Again, I know a dog is not the same as a kid but know you’re not alone and this is something that happens. Some of us seem to either have trouble giving up our time or take a lot longer to form bonds.

Give it time, use your support system, and stay in therapy. It will get more enjoyable when he’s older.

Take all the hills and stairs you can and don’t limit yourself to just those seven floors per day, especially if you can say, go up your third floor apartment a couple of times per day too. The seven floors will suck for a while but you’ll quickly see how each floor gets easier. Your body will quickly adapt.

If you’re interested also on losing weight, that’ll make it easier too simply cause you’ll be lighter and easier for your muscles and bones to move around.

What was the volume in your old bag?

An anecdote is not data.

Your quote is removing key pieces. Very misleading.

In addition, u/aspiringcreator1 is right on other fronts, especially masks and droplets.

It was very clear the virus was airborne yet WHO was saying masks didn’t work because transmission was via droplets while telling healthcare providers they really needed N95 masks… it really eroded their word.

I’m happy I was in a city quick to react where covid hasn’t been this overwhelming disaster it’s been elsewhere particularly thanks to an early shutdown and early mask mandates.

“It’s just the flu!”

I assume you can FOIA them at this point.

I worked as an EMT for many years, including dispatch. While I never managed a mass casualty of this level (who has?) I always found solace knowing I was able to hold someone’s hand or bring them a bit of calm in their darkest moments.

If this truly is how things went down, Lisa’s compassionate approach and quick thinking getting the FBI on the line are commendable. I hope she can find peace in that.

I don't even know if he did anything illegal since he's right that we've had sex many times in the past.

He drugged you and then raped you. It doesn’t matter if you have had sex with him in the past.

Do I break up with him?

Yes.

Do I tell someone?

Tell the police. Keep the texts. Screenshot them and send them to your email and a backup email.

Do I throw what we've built over the past several years down the drain because of one drunken mistake?

Wow dude. Respect yourself. Do you want to be with a rapist? A drunken mistake is making a fool out of you at karaoke, not drugging and raping someone.

You seem to be putting a lot of weight on his friend. I’ll be very clear: your boyfriend did this, not his friend. It doesn’t matter if his friend grew up in a broken home or whatever—it was your boyfriend who raped you.

Which begs the next question: do you think it’s possible his friend also raped you? Because from your bf’s text, it seems plausible.

Also, you had said in a different comment you were raped before. Was it by the same guy?

Lol more like in the negatives.

Lawyer up and stop talking to him unless it’s through a lawyer.

He’s an asshole for not supporting you and taking care of his own kid but that’s he’s prerogative. However, you don’t need to be stuck with him. As a caretaker, a stat at home mom, and with him Cheating, you’ll likely be given some alimony, which is better than having him around acting like this.

Invest it in a diversified fund (vanguard’s VTI for example) through a Roth IRA so it grows tax free.

and leave it there until you’re done with med school. Take the loans you need for med school and use this money to pay as much as you can right before they start accruing interest but not before then.

You’re killing it. Keep it up!