I feel like they need the face masks for while inside the car as well! Who knows what kind of funk is growing in there?!?!

As Reddit states:

The lion The witch And the audacity of that bitch

Which in this case, to be very clear, is YOU and not your sister.

Are they … wax figures?

I legit thought she was going to say her third embarrassing purchase was those sunglasses 😎

JFC whether or not you gave your Coke to a toddler at a work event has somehow become a controversy at your work! Don’t they have something more important to divide over, like masks or vaccination status or whether the earth is flat? Geesh!

“Sweep the leg!” “No mercy!”

This is entirely normal and it’s going to happen. Just because it ended doesn’t mean your time together was terrible. It’s ok to remember and mourn the times that were good, and to also mourn the future you had imagined. Especially right now, when you’re not even 6 months out.

I separated from my ex 10 years ago, but we have kids together so we still have to interact. Sometimes I have a lot of hatred toward him, like when he does things that negatively impact our kids and I think “what an asshole!” Most of the time we get along fine and sometimes, like when I hear a certain song or remember a certain event, I still think about him or remember him fondly (or even tear up at unexpected moments). I have zero interest in him romantically and, again, there are times he aggravates the living fuck out of me, but when he had a medical event last year (on his honeymoon!) it really impacted me.

So you can recognize that you dodged a bullet with his psycho mom and still have complex and complicated feelings. Just give yourself time. Good luck moving on to a better place.

They have shown you who they are over and over again. It is time to drop the rope. This is not “quitting.” Rather, it’s a recognition that you have worth and value that exists independently of them and what they think about you. They will never be the family you need or deserve. So yes, drop that rope, disconnect from them, and be with the family and friends of your choice. Again - this is NOT quitting because there is no winning possible here. It’s stepping back and recognizing that you do not deserve this treatment. If you watched a friend constantly run full strength at a brick wall, would you tell them “keep at it, you’ll eventually soften that wall” or would you tell them “stop hurting yourself!”? You’re never going to win against a brick wall no matter how much “I don’t quit” you have in you.

Belated happy birthday wishes from an Internet mom.

Same. Every time I hear “appeasement” these lyrics from the song Cynthia Mask go through my head:

Chamberlain

Came crawling from Munich

With one piece of paper

He waved at the camera

Peace in our time

Oh thank you Herr Hitler

Tell that to the Polish

Tell that to the Jews

From Robyn Hitchcock and the Egyptians

The definition of “ignorant” is: lacking knowledge or awareness in general; uneducated or unsophisticated

So I’d say they’re not ignorant downvotes, but fully informed ones.

Go ahead u/kenobisham - cast your downvote to my post. And you have a nice day!

Yay I am SO HAPPY for you! This is the update we all needed to see and thanks for posting it! Just think of the sheer number of Internet strangers invested in your story and your happiness (and ignore the creeps and trolls - just people hiding behind Internet anonymity to be nasty). Just think about it - these strangers cares more about your happiness than Nate!

And the best thing is that you were able to get the support you needed to stop this now and not years (and potentially kids) down the road. Before we separated, my Ex would ask, “whatever happened to happy lb2345?” Well, his constant judgment, anger, narcissism, etc., drove her so deep into the ground that people who met me during that time were amazed at how different I was after the separation/divorce. But it wasn’t that I’d become someone else - I just freed myself from the dungeon where she’d been locked up. Which left me free to do things like vacuuming while playing and singing along to music because why not?!?!

I know this is a hard time, and there may be times when you’re tempted by the good times in the past, but be strong. If he’s changed, it won’t just be words - it’ll be actions, and you can make the determination of whether you want anything to do with him in the future from a place where you feel safe to be yourself.

OP - I agree with the poster above. He’s a liar snd he’ll use any lie necessary to try and get you to go there (which isn’t “home” since home is where you live and are allowed to be your own person), where he’ll then attempt to make you both financially dependent on them (at first it was to save money, but now it’s only fair to pay them some rent, but since it’s less than you were paying they’re doing you a favor), AND you’ll be expected to be your sister’s parent. Suggest you head on over to r/raisedbynarcissists and see if any of the resources offered on that sub strike a chord. So sorry to hear about everything you’ve been through - but if you go back, it will just keep happening. Spend Christmas with your partner!

DAE love the pure irony of the fact that this “Christian man” worked for, and got fired from, a place called “Mighty Hand”!!!! Seems like the Mighty Hand of God hath smote him for his actions!!!

OMG - this was an amazing mashup of r/niceguys creep vibes and apparently dude channeling God? Like he provides “God’s response” to his being rejected (presumably by every woman out there - “you and you and you and you and you”)?

We’re not allowed to link to social media. He says his name in the video so if you look for that you’ll see a shortened version with luke and buch so just put them together as one word

We’re not allowed to link to social media. He says his name in the video so if you look for that you’ll see a shortened version with luke and buch so just put them together as one word

We’re not allowed to link to social media. He says his name in the video so if you look for that you’ll see a shortened version with luke and buch so just put them together as one word

We’re not allowed to link to social media. He says his name in the video so if you look for that you’ll see a shortened version with luke and buch so just put them together as one word

I know what you’re saying, but not really. Small claims court doesn’t allow for lawyers or legal fees. Plus there’s a cap on the amount in controversy which varies by jurisdiction. For some it’s $2500 or less, but some can go up to $10K. Which clearly isn’t chump change but plaintiff must prove damages. Can’t just be “I’m suing for the maximum allowable, here’s my case written on this napkin in crayon.”

Provided OP doesn’t damage his and his wife’s stuff when it gets moved, and it’s transported to another family member’s house (or somewhere safe), then the freeloader doesn’t have any damages. And “I can’t keep living with you for free so I might have to get off my ass and get a job” isn’t damages. And being responsible for your own rent, food, etc., isn’t recoverable because OP has no duty to provide.

Like I said - it’s the nuclear option but sometimes that’s what it takes. But OP has less nuclear options, including making life there a lot less comfortable than he has thus far.

Edited to add: Realize every country/state/etc is different. This is what it is for VA:

Under Virginia law, if you do not have a lease, and you do not pay rent, you are considered a “tenant at sufferance.” This means you can be evicted for any reason at all, at any time, and no notice needs to be given to you.

Found his Instagram but not the clip. Mural is looking amazing! Maybe he could post to YouTube? Usually links to YouTube are allowed. Your brother was super calm and composed. Kudos to him. Also loved seeing the other murals!

Box it up, get him out, change your locks. He doesn’t work, so how’s he going to get any kind of a lawyer to take his case, even if he had any kind of defensible legal position? You and your wife take him and his wife out for dinner and have a friend go over and box everything up and then drive him and his wife to the relative’s house where you meet up with your friend and their stuff. Clearly this will require some coordination with the friend - or you all go to dinner and you get an “emergency” where you call an Uber (your friend) and you go and box his shit while he and his wife are enjoying their last freeloading dinner. Then meet up with them at the relative’s place. Have all the boxes out of the vehicle and staged to go into the house.

“Here you go pal, go surf on someone else’s couch, Chez Beach Bum is closed!!!!”

ETA: if this option is too nuclear, then make staying at your place as painful as possible. Password protect the wifi, change all streaming passwords, turn off the hot water during showers after a reasonable time, kick their butts to the couch. You’ve made them far too comfortable. They’re acting like nest stealing cuckoo birds and you’re letting them. Take back your nest!!!

Edit: Grammar

I feel like this should be an oven mitten slap - which would be hysterical. But they’re so soft - maybe a cleaning glove slap? 🧤

My butt My butt My little kitty butt

Seems clear