She's gorgeous!

I always thought that was a weird place for her to go. People are bizarre there, which isn't surprising since the Focus On the Family headquarters are there.

At the time she moved it was probably a cheaper alternative to Denver, though I hear it's getting pretty expensive there now as well.

And the security guard watching that creepy shit is thinking "yeah, not my job."

Something about a human sprinting around on all fours is uniquely terrifying.

That sounds so revolting.

I tried so hard to like that series. Really wish I could enjoy her writing, I need a new binge series.

Fair enough!

I refused zoom vid. I'm on the call, I'm participating and adding to the conversation. You don't need to stare up my nostril while we have a meeting.

They haven't argued that point so far but I think that's only because I'm very interactive where I need to be and they aren't worried about making sure I'm listening.

Yoga or pajama pants and a hoodie, house flip flops or barefoot.

Fuck I love my at home days.

To be fair, my work place is super casual dress and I'll wear yoga pants there too. I just hate the actually putting on make up to go in aspect. It's not required but you can guarantee that you'll be asked if you're tired when you don't wear it lol

Ok whew!

Well, I'm sure that those some of you that do have that feeling have good reasons to feel that way.

I hope you find someone that turns that feeling around (even if it's just a friend).

Some women are pretty cool, lots are sketchy as hell. That's people in general though, it's really which gender has hurt you the worst that drives the hate or dislike.

Just like women saying "I hate men."

Nah girl, you hate the men you've interacted with or read about on specified websites/subreddits/apps. There's a ton of really awesome men and you've associated with bottom of the barrel troglodyte types, I promise you the world opens up when you don't paint the broad stroak.

Shitty people are gender neutral and you find one good out of ten bad lately.

I'm gonna come back and ask if you found a woman you don't hate, reminder set on my phone for one year from now!

I've heard this before and always wondered if it's why my SO can't take a compliment.

My male coworkers and friends have gotten used to it, because I freely compliment on things ranging from attitude, haircuts, hey your eyes look cool with that color shirt, I love that hat etc. But they have mentioned that it's weird but nice to be genuinely complimented by someone that isn't romantically interested in them.

But my SO still struggles with any compliments after almost 6 years together.

Awww😔 I hope that's not totally true, I absolutely adore a lot of the men in my life and that would make me so sad.

Welll... I wear make up at work so I won't be asked if I'm tired.

And I wear make up if my SO is around or I send him pictures because I want to look nice for him.

So in some cases it's done for men. He doesn't ever ask for it but he's the only person I really care about wearing it for. So it is done for him.

Or work lol

Seinfeld, The Office or possibly Breaking Bad.

Hmmm.. I can't think of anyone I really need revenge on.

This one might seem petty to my POS family I cut out:

I would pay off my ex husband's mortgage or purchase a new home for him, his choice. Pay off his current debt and give him a chunk to have for whatever. He's a good person and it would only benefit our son to have his father in a better position.

I would then set aside enough for both of my children to purchase their own homes, pay for school if they wish to attend, and have some set in a trust that comes to them in intervals.

Then I would never ever tell any of my family that I have that kind of money. If they found out, I would refuse to give them a dime. I really think the helping my ex husband by refusing them would put me fully in the "petty" scale in their minds.

Cats

If it's sperm that came from a sperm bank, absolutely not. There should be a file with medical history and everything pertinent to the role of sperm donor.

That donor either donated for money or donated to help a couple or single mother that wanted a family. They didn't donate to be hunted down later in life.

If they expressed they were open to that at the time of donating then maybe.

If it's a "sperm donor" as in one night stand then I don't see a problem, though they'll probably be disappointed.

If the child is super interested then do a 23andme or whatever and see what matches. But don't contact the donor directly, only potential siblings.

Grab the pets and kid and get out. Everything else can be replaced and if it can't be it's still not more important than them.

Kid will be the top priority though. If I can't immediately find my cats then I'll have to hope they escape through the door or window I throw open for them. The dog is always right next to me so he won't be an issue I imagine.

Huh. Well, in another comment you said it's your first pass at life. So you don't know how it's going to go anyways, I can't see it changing anything.

Maybe I'm not getting how anything could really be changed by that.

Even if it's your second pass through, if everything is going to repeat exactly the same then why would it change anything? Perhaps enjoy the things you know are great and have a better outlook during the shitty times because you know how /when it'll end.

I would say once you start feeling like a babysitter instead of the grandparent.

Some grandparents absolutely LIVE for watching their grandchildren all the time. My friend's mom retired a bit early because she wanted to watch them full time.

Other grandparents love to have them occasionally but are too busy or worn out to have them over all the time, especially when the kids are young.

Nothing wrong with either of those situations.

That's so sad.

I always wanted a loving grandparent growing up, I was always sad about not having that.

I know my former in laws were probably a bit nervous that their time with my son would be at risk when my ex and I divorced but there is no way that I would let my son miss out on that relationship. It's so important to him and to the grandparents. I guess it also helps that my ex and I are still friendly and coparent well. I would never want to hurt him like that.

They don't have quite as much stamina the past few years but love seeing him so we worked out that they'll pick him up a few days a week and drop him off when they start getting tired or whatever.

They usually have him for 3-4 hours twice a week and it turns out perfect!

I hope they never fear asking to adjust that if it becomes too much. And I hope that you get to see your grandchildren soon. It's very immature for your former DIL to put them through this. Is there no way to see them during their time with your son?

The only reason I could ever see that being ok is if the grandparent was abusive or putting the children in a dangerous situation.

Betty White

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom. I'm glad you got a bit more time with her.

It's sad that he never realized what an asshole he was during that time. I'm glad your mom had caring children to really show her that she was appreciated and loved. I'm sure that made a world of difference when her SO was so callous about everything.

It's horrible to say, but I'm glad he got a bit of his own when he was in the same position. I don't wish ill on most people, but those that act like complete assholes to their spouse or children when times are tough deserve to experience the same as they dished out.