i own a house and 4 rentals here. well, 3 rental actually - sold one early this month. so that and friends/used to it.

i like the city, but my wife who moved here to be with me doesn't like the job market here.

So idk, might move if she hates for a year more and doesn't get opportunities.

Good post - but just want to say - I don't know about others but my parents would love to stay with me as long as possible, or i with them.

i moved out at 18 and we all hated it, i didn't want to move but had to for further education (my city didn't really have a comparable college compared to that i was getting into), and my parents didn't want me to leave - but wanted me to progress in life, so i had to go.

When i retire i would want to live with my parents. But i won't be able to, cause life moves on. i miss them.

you would be wrong. first of "the women" is not a monolithic group, and religion is one hell of a drug.

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Just like a lot of women in US are pro-life and support tea-party and a lot of poor people don't support minimum wage raise and support republicans, a lot of women in places with Muslim majority countries actually support the sharia law. they believe it's the right thing to do. So that belief needs to change - which needs to come from the people there -grassroots style, invasion won't change it.

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the fact that people in west assume that they would automatically get full or majority women support in these places, shows the lack of understanding which has led to this complete loss, and frankly no matter how it's put- its a total loss.

Otherwise most Dems would always get 100% women vote, republicans would never win, there would be no pro-life movement, and muslims would not be able to impose sharia law.

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I grew up in a place where Muslims were governed by sharia law (which means Courts upheld sharia law), because they themselves wanted it.

It sucks, but enlightenment must come from the people themselves- we can't force them to be liberal or expect that they will believe us.

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Religion is one hell of drug.

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Sure, agreed. Any code I write is supposed to help me do my job only. It’s not a product that others should be using :-)

Sure, idk if the advice helps anyone - I have no expertise there - I’m just describing my experience. Maybe it works for others - maybe it doesn’t - it’s really up to them.

From what I have seen -some people get into nice colleges and relax, or get a nice job and relax. My suggestion is don’t relax - keep pushing. Or don’t - do whatever makes you happy..

They visit but they are comfortable back home, they got a nice house and servants and I just gifted my dad a new car on his bday.

I can’t change immigration rules btw, and my parents don’t enjoy life here - they don’t have any friends or family here, can’t drive and have language problems. They are in 70s, they don’t wanna move. My siblings are set too, they have their lives and don’t wanna move either.

Thank you !

Hardware engineer, i am not good at coding.

450k annually rn, expecting a bump this year to 550k, in my early thirties, also a brown immigrant, started with 7.5$/hour with no family on the continent.

Edit - for people wondering, I got international scholarship from a US univ to come study here, did part time jobs for rent and food (and occasionally alcohol :-P). My fam is back in 3rd world.

Finished MS in ECE - was almost broke when I was hired by FAAMG 8-9 years as a chip design engineer. Started at 6 figure salary plus 6 figure stock alloc (barely).

It only grew after that, expecting 4th promo this year, In mid COL area.

Trick is stay hungry and stay at the top of whatever you do - school, college, entrance exams, work, projects whatever.

Chase perfection - forget money, it’ll auto flow to you as a side product. (Even tho I kinda was and stumbled into it, so this is hindsight 20/20 type of thing)

It’s not uncommon btw- check level 5 to 7 (technical ladder) at faamg, everyone makes bank. Just need the skill set.

Shows are awesome, and clubbing is awesome, and food is awesome. i had no complaints with Vegas.

I gambled in breaks between these things, and that was awesome too. i set a limit a gambling budget beforehand and assumed i will lose every single cent of it, I just wanted to experience it.

Turns out I ended up with a profit of 700$ after 2 sittings in blackjack (1-2 hours each). It's a grind but it was fun, i played it based on probabilities in every hand and of the overall deck, as i am Engineer it just came naturally.

my wife was impressed with my skills (!) so i enjoyed that too. Only thing being- after a little blackjack starts to feel like work instead of just fun, so i got bored and moved away back to shows and clubbing. i think poker could be fun too.

So i think gambling is fine as long you approach it analytically and have fixed budgets.

And that movie was based in London lol.

They were showing the 0.01% richest Indians.

Flat space like a road with traffic ?

We used to play cricket on less busy roads, pause whenever a car came to let them pass, and keep playing.

Grounds are rare and sparse, and cost money to play in - you had to buy membership and shit.

Difference is that India has almost zero opportunities for sports from primary level. Forget about corporate sponsorship.

There’s no encouragement or facilities for kids to play sports, it’s just something you do to pass time - like watching tv - it was a waste of time.

At least when I was growing in 90s - when all the kids in neighborhood wanted to play in evenings - they would chip in rupees and buy a cricket ball (and a rich kid would have a bat) and play on roads which were less busy, between weaving traffic. No one even knew 99% of the “sports” in olympics existed lol.

Culture was that everyone used to know that losers who can’t do anything else, did music, art or sports.

As things have improved a lot - I would say maybe about 0.1% of the Indian population participates in sports (if that even) - and whatever results are from tiny tiny percentage of participation.

And when I say participating- I mean 99% of the pop prolly hasn’t even touched a basketball- If you have, I consider you participated.

Both, I imagine it as instantaneous, it appears in 10 seconds, with moisture dripping on it.

which supposedly spanned 60,000 years with error margin of 48,000 years..

checks clock - we are in ~300 years in with emissions spiking, so we got some margin here to be the fastest ever.

woot woot ! i would like this so i can kick some ass in my league !

Lol that place is dysfunctional?

USA has 1/4 their population, 10 times the resources based on gdp, and have had almost 1.5 times the amount of deaths from covid. Even if numbers are under reported in india - it can be argued that US did a shittier job with resources they had.

My vote is both democracies are dysfunctional. Only China curbed it quickly - but the cost of swift action there is free speech. So I think all countries are dysfunctional

good job OP ! my wife's a dentist and i didn't floss my teeth growing up and she still married me. So don't worry about judgement at all.

For what i hear everyday - ton of people in US have bad teeth and she is immune to that. They see ton of cases and she is just trying to fix them, help people as best as she can and move on to the next case.

Only thing that upsets them are rude patients - apparently a lot of people are very rude, and treat dentists like they own them, and expect their teeth to magically be made new ! Not to mention internet doesn't necessarily help - she had a patient come in after a procedure - pull up some models teeth on google images and scream at her about why her teeth didn't look like that after a treatment.

As long as you are polite/nice to them - they won't judge or hate you.

it really is. only downside is i do work 12-14 hours and sometimes it's high pressure.

Another big downside is staying across the seas from family. I hardly see my parents or siblings, max 2-3 weeks every couple of years.

ECE (scholarship plus 3.9 gpa, and 2 internships)

I am not sure i agree.

I don't have any inner monologue or constant narrator. but for me thoughts are thoughts and all reading is like watching a movie, i have lots of images flashing through my head...

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But i excel at remembering stuff - at-least based of grades and generally talking to people (high scoring student and 3.8-4.0 GPA through college and MS without a lot of effort). i also remember most of the movies and books i read - from decades ago - when people forgot about them in a few years.

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and i also don't have to think before saying stuff. i was part of extempore and debate teams - i just have thoughts and i can give a speech on random topics without internal narrator - thoughts become words as i speak, but there is no voice inside my head that's taking care of content and grammar- it just flows as i speak.

communication is like eating or drinking to me... drawback is there are times when people will mention that i need to give a chance for other people to speak or get their views in, i will sometimes steamroll people without realizing - so i had to learn to hold back.

Whoever thinks chip design is same sector or even close to, as supply chain and manufacturing knows NOTHING about the multi billion market that is chip design.

At this point Apple, AMD, NVIDIA, Samsung, Qualcomm are all sourcing from same silicon manufacturers - so all phones and all laptops/tablets would be identical - but they are not - cause chip design teams are different and innovation being done there is done.

Apple’s hardware team- particularly chip design is one of the best in the world.

Yep

Mint says my net worth is over $2 mil now, and I used to live on 500$ a month 11 years ago.

Now my target is $5 mil. Though I just got married and having kids in a few years in my late 30s might mess that target up.

So never. You’ll never be satisfied - but at some point I think you just gotta make the call and be like - this is it. I’m done, sayonara dudes !