Yup, we're fucking pissed and I hope y'all feel some love from the rest of us for once. I just had a conversation with my baby boomer parents this morning about residential schools. They want to do better, they've just been ignorant.

It's relatively straightforward to adjust pitch on a French Horn as well, either with embouchure or with an alternate fingering. It's mostly keeping track of which notes you need to be shifting what way that's the tricky part.

Are you... acting like a child being raped is sexy? I don't really know how to take your comment.

It wasn't just the priests. I've spoken to a male residential school survivor who was raped by a nun. And he wasn't the only one.

Saaame. He clawed the shit out of me when I tried getting his fur wet with a spray bottle. For a while he was letting me pet him with a damp cloth, but now he's figured it out and takes off when he sees it coming. He's also afraid of the noise that fans make. About the only strategy that's been successful has been tricking him into drinking water by putting it in with his food.

In some ways, the cause of death doesn't really matter. Some children were beaten to death, some died from malnourished, or succumbed to infectious diseases due to the terrible conditions they lived in, some probably died of exposure from trying to run away, some killed themselves. Ultimately all of these deaths are part of a genocide, the specifics don't change the evil that was done.

Tell me about it! I'm also Canadian, so I know the struggle.

I've tried the mineral one, the white cast is absolutely insane. Texture wise it's comfortable to wear, but the white cast is almost purple.

I think it was about 3x larger.

Halifax was still bigger than Beirut.

The Duggars used what they called a buddy system, where Michelle would raise the baby until they were six months old, and then move them into the big kids room. At that point, they would be assigned to the buddy team of an older sibling who would be responsible for getting them dressed, bathing them, feeding, etc.

I find that there are some kinds of grief that cannot be understood by those who haven't experienced it. Even with the best of intentions, even the most empathetic person can't see the profound ways that loss changes you. There's almost a club of people who know that life can horribly brutal, and once you join that club, you can recognize others who also share that knowledge. You can't understand until life teaches you.

But you are right. There is still beauty and meaning and joy to be found in the world. It's just always tinged with that sadness for what could have been.

It's great that you are now more informed, but I gotta admit that it's pretty infuriating to read your post. Why would you assume that multiple adults are choosing to call out of work for something like a mild stomach ache? Why wasn't your default reaction something like, "Wow, period cramps must be a lot worse than I thought?" It would be a good idea for you to reflect on how misogyny is shaping your assumptions about women, because the conclusion you drew from those experiences is kinda fucked up.

ETA: also, wouldn't it be more believable if one woman was calling off habitually, not less believable? Because the obvious conclusion would be that she has a particularly painful period, possibly due to a health condition like endometriosis or fibroids.

Yep, me too. On android.

Yeah, any details at all feel graphic. There's literally no way to describe any of it without it being graphic.

I would encourage you to be very careful about what you choose to read about this case. In some of the articles and threads about it, there are descriptions of the videos and images that were found on his computer. You might be curious and think you can handle reading about it. Even the least graphic descriptions are truly horrifying, and I wish I had been more careful. I've been having intrusive thoughts about that stuff in the last couple of days, and I have no history of abuse or anything like that. It's genuinely some of the most awful stuff you can possibly imagine, and you will wish you could forget you had ever read it.

She was, but she only went to her parents when she caught him molesting her five year old sister (who was one of her "buddies," so basically her own kid). I think she was 11 at the time.

they had told him that he was "inherently bad" because of who his real parents are.

This is an absolutely horrific thing to say to your adopted child. They have done tremendous damage to both their relationship with him ("real parents"), and to his sense of self ("inherently bad"). Not to mention the insult to you, that you apparently have bad blood that has tainted him. That sentiment is literally one of the worst fears of many adoptees, and to find out that you are adopted with that phrase? And that that's how your parents have viewed you your whole life? It's appalling.

I don't want to say too much more because I'm so angry that it likely wouldn't be productive, but something like that cannot be unsaid. He will remember that for the rest of his life. They should be ashamed of themselves, and if they think they can sweep that under the rug, they will probably not understand why he has no relationship with them later in life.

I'm also Canadian, also from immigrant families on both sides (and more recently than your family it sounds like). I have never once been asked where I am really from, or where my family comes from. No one is even curious about my heritage unless I bring it up. Obviously it's because I'm white.

There's no low key about it, the racism is actually pretty in your face. Why isn't she curious about anyone else's ethnic background, or how long their families have been in Canada? It sounds like none of you were Native, so nobody's family is actually from Canada. It's on her to ask herself that question, and really explore why, in her mind, white people get to be Canadian, and everyone else is Canadian with an asterisk.

If someone who knew the person was listening, and was able to identify who they were based on what was shared, then it is not considered anonymous/anonymized. It doesn't matter if you don't use their name. If people can put it together from what you've shared, it's a violation of their privacy. Not to mention the damage done to the profession. Would you feel safe and comfortable visiting a therapist if you had overheard one trash talking their clients? Would you be able to trust a therapist after that? It doesn't even matter if you've kept the person anonymous, you may have just prevented someone else from seeking the help that they need.

Maybe it's because I'm not American that this is so baffling to me, but how is running from the cops a justification for getting shot? Aren't cops only allowed to shoot in self defense? Isn't running away the opposite of threatening? Where I grew up, it was (and probably still is) super common for teenagers to run from the cops, because they were drinking underage or messing around on private property or something, and they didn't want to get in shit from their parents. Is it really such a novel concept in your country that cops shouldn't kill people?

Those extremely graphic scenes were based on the Rape of Nanjing from the Second Sino-Japanese war, and they really happened. The whole last section of the book read to me like someone processing generational/cultural trauma.

I found the book incredibly disturbing. Any genocide is rough to read about, but this book had the compete annihilation of two different races of people (one before the events of the novel, one happening live with a viewpoint in the mind of the person who made the call), plus the incredibly graphic slaughter and sexual violence against an entire city. I can handle a lot, but I don't really want to subject myself to more of that.

Miracle in the Andes is another book about the same events, written by Nando Parrado (one of the two who walked out). It's much more personal, he really goes into what he was thinking and feeling and the impact on his life. Alive is a lot more factual, without that insight and thoughtfulness. I really recommend Miracle in the Andes, it's a great book.

I have a FitBit Inspire HR, which is okay but not perfect. The biggest downside is that it doesn't have the ability to alert me when my heart rate goes above a specified rate. So I just have to keep checking to see where I'm at. Other than that, I'm pretty happy with it.

Calm, pensive, peaceful, and content all feel fairly neutral to me.

I wouldn't mind this option, but I've already got my word cloud of moods sorted this way.