Another… (I was thinking in the shower.)

On the continuum from a raging, murderous transphobe to the perfect ally where is the point where you can label someone a transphobe?

I’ve already told you that I have had a pair of transfem friends for 50 years, a transmasc friend for 10 years, my kids have non-binary and trans friends who I treat with the same dignity and respect that I treat everyone else in my life is the simple fact that I’m interested in cis women enough to get me labelled a transphobe? What if I’m that raging, murderous transphobe but I have sex with trans women? Is being a transphobe like a scorecard, you can have a perfect score but a single wrong answer and you’re a transphobe?

I’m not being an ass or trolling. I genuinely want to understand your perspective on these questions to inform further discussion.

I asked a longtime lesbian friend whose partner is a retired human rights lawyer who specialized in LGBTQ+ rights law about this conversation and the partner mentioned absolutism (which I mentioned in another part of this discussion.) I just wonder if that’s what’s going on here.

I’m off to a maker fair with my family today so I probably won’t get back to this until late this evening. I hope you have a good day.