I am looking for people to play both games with. The games tend to be filled with lots of reactionaries so it can be hard to exist in them.
Like I get kicked a lot in tf2 for having a queer flag pfp, and it is hard to queue for group content in dark and darker if I don’t want to hear slurs.
even if the servers are queer friendly, I haven’t found one yet that doesn’t allow things like ableist language. They only feel marginally better with the tradeoff of smaller games