• UNWILLING_PARTICIPANT@sh.itjust.works
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    5 months ago

    So this is NOT normal? I’m a Frankenstein ('s monster (fuck off)) amalgam of various tics, mannerism, and attitudes that I’ve seen expressed by people I admire.

    Do regular people just roll the dice on their personality and go with it? What if they roll a bad personality?

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      5 months ago

      I have ADHD and I personally wish I could adopt some personality traits from people I find admirable!

      I’m just so me all the time even when I try very hard to be aware of myself and how I’m presenting.

      So impulsive.

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        5 months ago

        I get that feeling too, honestly. Like when I’m in front of a group of people I sometimes wish I could shake the nervousness that seems to rise from nowhere at all, but unfortunately I’m trapped as myself, fumbling and sweating through some softball “so tell us about this project” question 🙈

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      5 months ago

      It took me a long time to realise this is not normal. Most people just do this stuff instinctually. It’s why I’ve always found people so much effort.