Hello, my name is Cris. :)

I like being nice to people on the internet and looking at cool art stuff

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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • If you hear the term “black company”, what kind of company do you imagine? As we all know, black is the darkest color, so if you pictured an evil company with a dark side then you would be on the right track. A black company (aka “black corporation” or “black business”) is buraku kigyō ブラック 企業 in Japanese. In general, it is a term used to refer to an unacceptably exploitative employment system.

    Now, maybe you’re thinking this is a word to describe a factory somewhere in China, but you’d be wrong. The term is actually usually associated with white-collar industries rather than blue-collar ones. It was coined by young IT workers in the early 2000’s and, being the IT workers that they were, spread this nickname around the internet as an internet meme. Now, thanks to its fame, it is a term that can be used for other industries that are not IT.

    Context for anyone unfamiliar with the term





  • My advice is to learn a lot as much as you can about polyamory, and how to go about it in a healthy succesful way. Until you’re equiped to understand how different the relationship dynamics can be it will be hard to give useful advice or support, or know when things are not in a good place.

    Polyamory can be a perfectly reasonable and healthy, if untraditional way of doing relationships, but it can also very easily be unhealthy, especially if the relationship is polyamorous for the wrong reason.

    Ultimately what would be most important to me is that my kid is healthy and emotionally safe, and until you know enough to evaluate those things, it will be very hard to know whether your kid is in a good spot and navigating a style of relationship you’re unfamiliar with, or being taken advantage of while navigating something that is also likely very new for them, or somewhere in between as everyone involved navigates uncharted territories as young adults, making mistakes along the way (which to be fair, is developmentally normal.)

    I very much agree with the other comment about twice the risk. I had a very painful experience with attempting to be poly when it was a poor fit for me and my then-partner, but I have friends who are poly who are profoundly happy to have found the type of relationship that is fulfilling and feels right for them 🤷‍♂️. Its not for everyone, and there are definitely ways of going about it that are likely to end in heartache, but for many people it’s a revelation that there are no rules for love, and that they’re free to assemble whatever type of relationship they feel is right for them.

    I wish you the best friend, parenting a child who is neavigating things you are fundamentally unprepared to help with because they’re alien to you is more than a little bit scary. The best you can do is learn a lot, try to understand where they are, and try to support them in building a healthy life with healthy relationships, even if it doesn’t make a ton of sense to you.




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    EDIT! I take that back! Showcase has a link to look something up on JuatWatch!

    Thank you so much for the recommendation, I can replace JustWatch now, that’s one more proprietary app gone! And the interface looks excellent!


    I wish either would show me where I can watch things like justwatch, but I guess if I’m transitioning more towards piracy it doesn’t matter.

    But if there’s a way to watch something without pirating it, it’s nice to know where I can do that. I recognize that’d be massively more difficult for an open source project though



  • Lmao, I love your tread on me patch, and that knife is super nifty!

    This looks like a lovely and super practical carry, thanks for sharing it!

    Its always really interesting to get a glimpse into the world of someone who has to deal with very different things than yourself- the jar for needles seems like an excellent way to dispose of them!

    I’ve thought about carrying a lighter just for other folks but I’m not sure enough people in the spaces I inhabit smoke enough I’d ever be able to offer it to folks. Though I don’t get our much anyway, so that doesn’t really help either 😅