Ananääs

My mom and her husband were checking out a flat and the real estate agent had their fly open. After that they’d refer to her as “the fly-open” and remind each other of that person every now and then. I wasn’t there yet I remember the case. So I give you second generation memory of an awkward person!

That object, my friend, is me.

I find it easier to make friends with people that are also on the spectrum and then other stuff comes on top of it, rather than trying to find friends through a shared interest and then trying to adjust to normies strange way of being 😅 (although it seems that many of my friends that I made through a shared interest in the first place later turned out to be on the spectrum…)

Meowdy Purrtner!

Same here, used to happen when I’d have a big firght with my SO or parent who wouldn’t understand what’s going on and tried to push me into solving the situation rather than give space. But definitely difficulty speaking is an indicator of emotional distress/overwhelm for me and dissociation / freezing follows when the distress worsens. I find writing an easier way of communicating difficult emotions and thoughts and i’ve even thought about learning sign language to help with these situations.

Here’s the traditional “mustikkakukko” aka “rättänä” recipe

Kukko’s are foods from eastern Finland / Karelia that are baked inside the crust. Kalakukko is basically rye bread with fish inside and lanttukukko with rutabaga and meat. Vegan version of lanttukukko is made with seitan and tastes great!

While making Karelian pies you can also check out this “sultsina” recipe, they use basically the same dough and filling

I hope this is not Finland like the name Sisu would suggest as it’s very much forbidden to make any live fires at the moment - wildfire warning is set for the whole country. People are ignoring the warnings and starting forests fires with careless campfires, cigarette butts and such. :(

Composting outhouse with styrofoam seat is actually really nice :D especially if it’s used enough to keep the composting going, then when it’s really cold outside one may experience the joy of steamy composting shit warming up your butt while going on your business. Not too bad even in the Finnish winter. Cold plastic seat in the outhouse is the worst.

Finland

0-5 year olds Kindergarten (voluntary)

6 y.o.'s pre-school (mandatory since 2018)

Grades 1-6 in comprehensive school are called “low school” (mandatory) Grades 7-9 in comprehensive school are called “high school” (mandatory)

Second degree years 1-3 (mandatory since 2021), you choose either “upper secondary (gymnasium)” or vocational school (or both).

And if you wish to study further university/uni of applied sciences. Basically everyone does their masters (3+2 years) if they choose uni. Uni of applied sciences is usually 3 years.

Or as the badger would say, mushroom mushroom!

----- three!

1. Cold old house with memories about white cats, whipping sticks and aluminium candy wrappers
2. Burning the old house
3. Cat is my only friend but it has fleas and I slept on the livingroom floor because mice were making noise inside the roof and I was scared
4. Alone but books, except that one time when I was napping and uninvited people came over
5. When the periods came I was never ready and at that moment my childhood ended
6. Moving away and back again and again, why won’t you just separate?
7. I got a pair of fancy new shoes but others bullied me and I never wore them again
8. Finally that shitshow ended and I’m on my own
9. Years of angry and alternative truths
10. Years of realization and actual truths
11. What the hell am I supposed to do now?
12. Darkness has settled but I can’t and the neighbours are banging doors and it sounds like shooting
13. Finally something good
14. And then people and animals die
15. What the hell am I supposed to do now? Pt. 2

Thank you so much for sharing! This is really relatable and interesting theory and provoked lots of thoughts, I read another article from the same author about grand emotions and it too was striking, super inspiring stuff and I feel more validated after reading these.

I actually began to doubt if the therapy I went to was “off” as the focus on emotional skills was on “non-autistic emotions” and that underlined the fact that I wasn’t at all good with those, but there wasn’t much recognition and support for emotions such as those mentioned in the grand emotions article.

A mighty fine stick indeed!

Nice catch! I’ve found two of those, the first one I left in the woods because I thought they are rare and shouldn’t be picked up but the second one I took with me and made into a pie as it turned out they are not that rare. The ones I’ve found have been really big, it’s an interesting mushroom!