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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • Voran@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldEvery day.
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    14 days ago

    I don’t look for things to be either angry or grateful about I just get on with life. I respect that gratitude works for you. Personally I find forcing gratitude just drains me. I find I do best just accepting that sometimes I’m angry or stressed and that those are signs telling me something.




  • Voran@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldEvery day.
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    15 days ago

    I’m a nihilist. I wasn’t thinking of God.

    IDK. I respect that gratitude works for others. I personally am not a fan because I feel we have the normal range of emotions for a good reason.

    For example: Anger motivates us to leave an exploitative job or an abusive relationship. Gratitude might very well keep someone in that relationship or in a job where they end up herniating a disk…because instead of being angry enough to leave they tell themselves ‘I’m so lucky! Other people have it worse!’





  • Voran@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldEvery day.
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    16 days ago

    I find gratitude incredibly draining because it’s artificial and also it seems oddly guilt based. I would rather frame things as giving myself credit. I got tasks done. I showed self discipline. Gratitude implies I was handed something on a plate.





  • Could be something she does is burning energy and you haven’t figured out what.

    I used to wonder why I never gained weight despite eating twice what other people did…I never thought to factor in being extremely active because it was normal for me. I didn’t think brutal martial arts classes or 5k runs counted as being ‘active’. I thought it was normal.

    Granted I wasn’t underweight and didn’t need to gain but I really wanted to look like Zarya from Overwatch





  • I think it just bothers me that people shove the idea of being this cuddly nurturer at me and don’t give a shit if it’s what I want.

    A chess improvement company once wrote an article about me and although I was deeply grateful for the opportunity I am also very glad I saw the first draft because the reporter invented a whole imaginary child. While cutting a lot of my thoughts about annihilation and how it’s a fairly staple tactical skill.

    To his credit he removed it when I asked but…ugh. Can people not stay on topic ever? I swear to God I could be in the middle of defusing a bomb and someone would mention husbands or children.