We aren’t, non bigoted dorks are fine. I was part of a weirdo friend group in suburbia as a teenager that had some of the only queer people and black people in town. We were cringe sure, but we came by it honestly and we didn’t go around acting like we were better than everyone else for reasons beyond anyone’s control.

The thing about nazis is that they’re evil and cringe and that’s a rough fucking combination right there

I’m impressed with the thought process behind “i did a nazi salute in Germany to piss off leftist protesters, but I thought it would be legal to do with the other hand”. Like that’s a step below “I was just checking if it was still illegal”

I’ve had to have those seminars reframed to understand them. They aren’t meant to actually increase diversity, equity, or inclusion. There are policies meant to be read and understood, and there are policies meant to be pointed at. Those seminars are like the sexual harassment seminars. They aren’t thinking “now that we’ve informed you of how to not act like a sexual predator in the workplace you’ll be more prepared to behave yourself.” They’re making you take that seminar so that way when someone tries to claim that they didn’t know they couldn’t tell their coworkers about their genitals at work you can point to the sexual harassment training you gave them. These dei lectures are about liability.

Carrying your slack with enough room for people to slip up is the virtue. If everyone is always working really hard, management failed, if you do as little as you can possibly get away with leaving your coworkers to have to do your job, you’re lazy.

As I like to tell my coworkers, I work exactly hard enough to feel proud of my work. That should mean I’m fucking around a while on a Friday afternoon

Sometimes I’m struck by the way that framing impacts a situation. To many people feeling that a minority group is hateful is a legitimate reason for them to oppose our rights, and the response so often is (rightfully and accurately) that that group isn’t or that it’s ridiculous to imply that they’re hateful. It was even my gut response to say that as a white person who’s protested with black lives matter I was treated as one of them.

But the framing is wrong. Even if every blm protestor is a belligerent asshole, does that mean that the facts of american policing aren’t still horrifying? If every gay person was an annoying jerk why would that have any away in whether you should be allowed to discriminate against us for being gay? If trans people were all unpleasant, why would that matter for our right to live as we please and to be seen and recognized as the genders we live as?

Because while you can probably find people in each group who argues the majority should have less rights or should suffer as we have, they’re a small and powerless contingent. Majority rights have never been on the table, except when necessary to further oppress the minority (such as the right of cisgender girls to compete in athletics without genital examinations).

Yall are in the best position to deradicalize them. And while it wasn’t good you got sulked in, they were actively targeting people like you to suck you in

And the rockies. And the deserts. And maybe some of the other mountain ranges

Join us vampires by only going out at night

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What gave you that impression?

The menace of the melon lord must be defeated

Huh I was surprised by how low the US is given we’ve got a really good growing climate, but I forgot how much of the country isn’t in the Mississippi basin

And why Eisenhower built the interstates. They even used dod funding

Yeah, people who win legitimately don’t talk like this when their opponents aren’t fighting their wins. Everything here is pretty fishy ngl

I think she’s just hot and trying to make friends. Like, I know lesbians with similar experiences and I’ve met trans men who put out in order to get to be friends with guys before transitioning, but I’ve met plenty of cishet women who thought they’d made a cool new friend only to have him hit on her and break off the friendship over it

That has mixed success for various women in my experience.

Also so often they aren’t nice, they just think they are.

But for real. Wash frequently, groom yourself, get out of the house, and start making platonic friends. From there learn to flirt. Oh also, acknowledge the reality of how attractive you are and while it’s totally cool to shoot above your range, accept that you’re probably going to get someone similarly desirable to you. Oh and get your mental and emotional health under a certain level of control, emotional labor is part of a relationship but so often I see lonely people seeking codependency.

I was once a weirdo loser who couldn’t get a partner, and anyone who can’t do the above needs to take a good long look at why and resolve those issues. If you can’t be happy single a relationship won’t make you happier, they’re more of happiness multipliers.

It’s both satire and a reversal of the same experience.

The thing about socialization is that it’s ongoing throughout life. A guy having male friends who can tell him “idk bro sounds like platonic affection” can help him learn even as an adult

OK but my wife is actually excited by how it lets her see Chinese experiences