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Cake day: February 1st, 2024

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  • You don’t need to patronizingly explain what a munch is. I’ve observed these people over several months, and 4/5 of them are nowhere near hardcore kinksters. I don’t know where you’re from, but around here the general culture is already very soft and removed from the scene. These people want to feel no pain.


    1. Yes, there is a fairly well-known fetish club in the city. It would have to be a weekend trip. I’d probably find mostly straight people though. I met a previous (female) partner in a similar way. It was a great relationship, but there was always this feeling that I was more hardcore into kink stuff than she was. I just can’t dial it down for those whose interest is more moderate.
    2. Femboy psychology is a whole ball of yarn. Do I really want to date anyone who presents effeminate? I’m into it to an extent, but not when it compromises the hard sadomasochism. If those things are opposed to each other (as you say they’re introverts) then I might be an exception. I wish people wouldn’t be such pussies.




  • I feel you on the local kink scene. The couples here aren’t even looking for thirds. People go to these meetings just to play pool, and they act like the sex drive has been sucked out of them by some kind of alien parasite. Tops act like bottoms, bottoms act like tops, everyone either has kids or is some kind of little. The only hard tops are bears. 🐻


  • There is a major city an hour away. Thanks for the list. Any reason you didn’t include Scruff? Fetlife isn’t for dating. Growlr and Barq aren’t for me (not into bears, not a furry). Sniffies and Grindr are hookup sites, so that’s kinda my last resort. I’m on Recon right now but it’s all dead ends.







  • Homie is a nice European guy who dabbles in software as I do. We met in the software (which I won’t name because its community is very small). There are currently issues with its VR driver integration on Linux, so I played in desktop mode while he fondled my cute little avatar. There is a concept of “phantom sense” which some people experience. Different social VR clients have different degrees of sophistication in different areas. Some clients give you hand collision but no arm IK, some both, some neither. I wasn’t using the actual VR part, so I stood there and talked to him while he had fun with me, similar to sex with a quadriplegic. :P