I used to see him all over the place and now nothing. I checked his post history and it’s been 24 days since he last posted anything.

I don’t know the guy or have any personal stake, but seeing someone everywhere just suddenly disappear is odd.

  • rodneylives@lemmy.world
    152·
    14 hours ago

    I know FlyingSquid from another community, and sent them a private message just a few days ago saying hello. (I didn’t know they had been missing at the time.) FS is awesome, and I really hope they’re okay.

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      4·
      13 hours ago

      Well, I’d you truly do know them - let them know it was noticed and some of us do hope they are ok. A break or a full breakup is totally justified. I just don’t want to see people hurt or hurting.

    • Lemminary@lemmy.world
      2·
      13 hours ago

      My interactions with him weren’t awesome but he has his heart in the right place and that’s all that matters to me.

  • apfelwoiSchoppen@lemmy.world
    23·
    1 day ago

    I saw recently (within the last three weeks or so) that they were blocked from posting on the World News or News communities in their mod log. Can’t remember which now because an entire decade has happened between now and then.

    Hope they are OK.

  • Skua@kbin.earth
    1061·
    1 day ago

    I will absolutely not share specifics of this since it would be doxxing him, but I found one of his other social media accounts and it had a post from a week ago that seemed ordinary enough. Whatever got him to stop posting here, it wasn’t something so drastic as to prevent him from engaging with his interests

    (Also Squid, if you see this, I am happy to explain how I found you over DMs if it concerns you)

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      16·
      1 day ago

      I’m glad he’s off if that’s truly him then. Some of the other posts here were worrying. Best of luck to him and his family.

    • FaceDeer@fedia.io
      603·
      1 day ago

      Glad to hear that he’s apparently doing okay.

      But I must say, I think it’s probably for the best that he dialed down his Fediverse engagement. Both for his own sake (nobody should spend that much time on social media) and for the Fediverse as a whole - he seemed to be everywhere that I went and it made the place feel small and monocultural.

      I’ve always liked the way on Reddit I barely ever recognized anyone’s name. I prefer engaging with the conversation, not with the people.

      • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
        733·
        1 day ago

        Being real, part of what’s been great about lemmy is connection with people, instead of empty bullshit jokes and snark and the usual smugness that comes from not knowing the people.

        There’s a been dozens of times I’ve seen people here see someone acting unusual, and reaching out to see what’s going on, offering sympathy and ending with mutual respect instead of slap fights.

        Fuck the way reddit worked. It didn’t work, but everyone thought it was the only way to have threaded forums, that you had to accept everyone being anonymous dicks as the price of discourse and content.

        But it isn’t, it really isn’t the only way. And lemmy, for all its faults, still has that sense of actual community where you can go to a new C/ and run across lemmy friends. Some of them may even turn into friends in other ways.

        The old squid was indeed everywhere, and he made plenty of mistakes along the way, but damned if he didn’t do his part to make lemmy feel like a place for people first, even when the way he went about that was one of his mistakes.

        I don’t want to float through the kind of cesspits reddit could have, feeding back into toxicity via anonymity and disconnection.

        • FaceDeer@fedia.io
          12·
          1 day ago

          Well, that’s fine if you prefer it that way. I prefer relative anonymity and subject-focused discussion myself. It’s a preference, not an objective “I’m right and you’re wrong” sort of thing.

          • southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
            3·
            1 day ago

            Word. No right or wrong :)

            Just don’t know that you’ll find lemmy in general that subject focused. There’s some communities that stay pretty tight, but it tends more towards mini chats rather than more structured comment chains.

        • Flax@feddit.ukEnglish
          13·
          1 day ago

          I like that aspect of lemmy as well. I quite commonly see familiar names.

      • PlexSheep@infosec.pub
        15·
        1 day ago

        I really like just occasionally recognizing someone. Also, user labels are awesome. I write about funny jokes and mad nuts in those.

  • ClanOfTheOcho@lemmy.world
    42·
    2 days ago

    Last I saw, he moved back to the UK and was struggling to find a job. The sudden, unexpected lack of communication is certainly concerning.

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      24·
      2 days ago

      I knew about the UK move, but had no idea about the job. I agree that the sudden cutoff is strange indeed.

      • protist@mander.xyzEnglish
        36·
        2 days ago

        He shared a lot about his life on here and I worry he set himself up for failure moving to the UK. Based on what he’s said, he had a condition where he no longer wanted to eat, and then stopped working for a long time because of that. He seemed to expect that finding a job was going to be easy moving to a new country, but that’s not typically the case, especially after having not worked in years.

        After moving, he talked a lot about finding a job, which had me wondering what changed. While he wasn’t working, he was spending 12+ hours on Lemmy every day, with like well over a hundred posts/comments per day, and constantly talking about not being able to work. Going from that mindset to desperately trying to find a job in a foreign country seems like a mindfuck.

  • tiredofsametab@fedia.io
    15·
    2 days ago

    There was a post in powertrippingbastards the other day that referenced him, though I don’t recall which. Some person mentioned an argument with them on discord/matrix and they chose to step away.

  • HubertManne@piefed.socialEnglish
    12·
    2 days ago

    I thought at first it was 24 hours and I was like woa man. Sometimes folks have to take a break. But 24 days is long.

        • Wren@lemmy.world
          5·
          20 hours ago

          I do have the real story but it’s not mine to tell, so I won’t relay it here. But yours is not correct. You’re misremembering what happened.

            • Wren@lemmy.world
              7·
              20 hours ago

              No it isn’t useless. You are misrepresenting what happened. I am here to make this statement. It is useful in that anyone that might have read what you said will hopefully disregard it as a result

                • Wren@lemmy.world
                  7·
                  20 hours ago

                  I’m saying that you’re wrong in your telling of the story. I’m also saying that what happened should not have been public, but unfortunately was. But just because it was, that doesn’t mean any calling to it, or referencing it isn’t incredibly disrespectful to a person that was in the middle of a crisis.

                  Their privacy should be taken into consideration regardless of whether or not the event was posted publicly.

                  The comments were removed. There is no need to fill in blanks to tell a story that doesn’t need to be told.

    • WindyRebel@lemmy.worldOP
      251·
      2 days ago

      Jesus! I really hope that didn’t happen or wasn’t a thing. The guy was open about an LGBTQ+ child and I really hope they didn’t/don’t have to endure losing their parent. I have a child as well and I would never want him to deal with losing a parent at a young age. It makes me sad.

    • EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      71·
      1 day ago

      Wow, fuck that other person. I can’t believe someone could be so heartless as to not only root for someone to kill themselves, but to vocally express a desire to watch it happen.