Or less common opinions that you’ve been waiting for a chance to share?

Apologies if this has been asked before; I didn’t see it among recent posts and I like to hear everyone’s hot takes.

  • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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    2 days ago

    My experience with casual sex as an adult was that it was readily available to me, but as soon as I said I was going to start dating for real, my casual guys (who I specifically was with because I figured they didn’t get attached) wanted to date. Me. I was surprised, to put it mildly.

    I haven’t ever felt like I was racing against time, though. Had kids because I wanted them, and wasn’t interested in marriage, got married in my late 40s because my now husband wanted to pretty bad, and because, since I had kids and he did, it made sense, stepparent is a stronger legal status than “mom’s boyfriend”.

    Maybe I’m an outlier but maybe not. It always seemed to me that marriage advantages men more than women.

    • RepressedLemmier@lemmynsfw.com
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      2 days ago

      Oh yea. Men compartmentalize like that. Sometimes sex has nothing to do with romance, sometimes they get too close from being with you for a long time.

      I’m personally curious about both things.