I’m asexual but I enjoy feeling horny so I dabble in chastity. I find that I stop feeling horny after about 2 weeks and don’t really desire an orgasm anymore. Do other people experience chastity similarly or is this another difference from being ace? I’ve not gone longer than a month really so maybe, as someone suggested the other day, it comes in waves?

  • chloespanked@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    1 year ago

    For me, the first two weeks of abstinence are pretty easy. Week 3 is very different - I feel very horny, frustrated, and irritated. And then week 4 and onwards things are easier again. I’ve only made it past that 3 week hump - when before I’ve caved - once, in my current streak, and I’m currently on day 52. It’s not that tough; I’m learning new things about my body, like how I experience horniness now and if/how I can satisfy it.

    I think there’s a general idea around femdom/FLR communities that males peak in sexual frustration around week 3, after which they seem to adopt to the new normal of not coming. So, proponents of this lifestyle let their men have a ‘release’ every 3 weeks - to maximize their long-term frustration/ submissiveness/ etc. I believe I’ve read this in detail on the blog evolvingyourman. I don’t know how truly common it is in those communities.

    So, I think you’re in good company if you notice your horniness rising and falling with time in a patterned way - that more time spent in chastity doesn’t always equal more horniness. It may be that you stop feeling horny quicker (~2 weeks versus ~4) than non aces