Recently a question came up in my life for reasons that are probably best explained with ADHD.

While it might appears to be google-able question the answer are all very different, I would like to hear your opinions.

Anyway the question that lead me to the question above is the following “assuming you would have a reasonable expectation to have sex with a person, e.g. you paid a prostitute, and that person would end up having sex with another person instead and you wouldn’t get to do it too, would you be cockold?”

Thanks.

  • TheBananaKing@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    3 months ago

    Generally the person who enjoys being cuckolded will be involved in making the whole thing happen, so there’s some mental gymnastics going on there, same with as most kink.

    Virtually all kinks are based around deliberately seeking out <bad thing> then allowing it to happen to you, so you can bask in the freedom from fear.

    If someone finds a whip and asks you to hit them with it so that they will feel pain, it’s not exactly assault.

    If someone finds a guy and asks you to have sex with him so that they will feel humiliated, it’s not exactly cheating.

    There’s enough surface resemblance there to push the same emotional buttons (so long as you squint a bit), but it still warrants the scare-quotes.

    • Thrower@lemmynsfw.comOPEnglish
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      3 months ago

      Sorry if it sounded like I criticized you. I just meant that I am interested in what you described while I don’t know if I agree fully with your description as the general statement that It is. But it is out of love for the human nature and people’s thoughts on it, that I am asking.

      Thank you for your effort and help