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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • For me, fine would be my preferred generic response to these questions because that’s generally how I actually am.

    To me, good means actively happy. But generally speaking I’m more neutral. If there’s nothing that has made me actively happy at that moment, and I’m also not actively annoyed or upset about something, then I’m just existing, neutral.

    But people tend to question you when you do that. “Fine? Not good? What’s wrong?🤔🥺” Which is annoying because I thought we were playing the game where you ask a question you don’t want the answer to… But they want you to answer in very specific socially acceptable ways and fine is apparently negative to NT.

    My favorite response is in Russian. Im Not Russian and don’t even know if this is actually culturally accurate but being taught Russian in America we learned: “как дела?” (Kak Dela?- how goes it?) “нормальный” (normal’nyy - Normal¯⁠\⁠_⁠(~⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯)






  • How is it meaningful to have neverending scripts of “hey how are you” “I’m good how are you” “good thanks. How was your day?” “It was good how was yours?” “It was alright thanks.” I would be happy to never ever ever answer those questions again. I’ll tell you how I’m feeling when I have something to say about it and I’ll talk you about something that happened during my day if I want to. I expect the same from you. I’m also happy to just sit near you in silence. Watch something together or do our own thing.