Like I said, focus on a social version of your hobbies. Even things you might do alone in your home, I guarantee you that people like to get together physically and do that thing, or virtually to at least talk and learn together.

Its hard to give specific examples for you but say you like to do some sort of arts and craft, or some form of excercise, then you’d find a social space around that and start participating regularly. You would primarily focus on the thing you are doing but a secondary focus would be slowly building relationships with those in your group.

It doesnt take long being around someone before they feel they know you well enough to feel safe doing other things or even more intimate things. Youll also be sure that the people in the group have at least something major in common with you.

Maybe you could explain why you think thats a worse choice than playing the lottery on dating apps/sites?