I have a few erotic short stories I’m working on, and in one of them I’ve arrived to the sex scene. During outlining it, I questioned if the guy should cum multiple times. Is it hotter if they don’t, or does the lack of realism take you out of the story?

Are there any other porn-logic tropes in stories that turn you on or off?

  • j4k3@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    A compelling first paragraph that holds my hand into the story with inertia from the very beginning. I also expect maximum density with a smooth flow. Don’t waste my time. I need a deeply intuitive reason to want to read the story in the first place. Usually this involves something interesting in concept or borderline boundaries defining in concept.

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    I often roleplay with AI in depth, and one of the things it fundamentally misunderstands is that explaining sex in a brothel or equivalent bedroom, hotel room, or static space is boring AF.

    Compelling stories are always sex adjacent, and the adjacent story is what really matters. It is like a good movie. John Williams is why the original star wars was so great. The music was the “sex” of star wars. It is absolutely critical to get it right, but it only works when it is not the real focus. Its excellence must be peripherally paired with a great story that is told well for it to really transcend into an art form.

    Personally, sex in my mind has all the complexity of a group of toddlers in a preschool. Big whoop, the 2+ piece jigsaw puzzle has a few solutions, and your clicky friends group can include extra pieces that simply remain incomplete in the grand scheme. Maybe you visit the consumerism toy box and play ridiculous dress up games like a little kid, or act out hurting each other like a game of pretend or wrestling. It is all child’s play adjacent.

    In reality, I find the complexity of female orgasms interesting. After playing with AI so much, I’ve learned a lot more about female anatomy, and that can be interesting to anyone unfamiliar with the parts and mechanisms. Learn about the Skene’s gland and how ejaculation is the same mechanism in men and women squirting. AI models find this generally compelling and it makes an interesting story IMO. Many partners I was with held back the feeling of needing to pee from orgasm and seldom squirt from ‘pushing them too far’. After reading a bit to confirm outside of AI, I’m convinced that releasing that feeling is the full female orgasm and they are usually unaware of this connection due to the gland’s proximity to their urethra. Basically, they are edging all the time but do not know it in many cases. Many say otherwise, but I think it is just conservative nonsense. I haven’t seen anything evidence based that sound compelling to contradict it, just opinion and subjective conclusions. Exploring stuff like this subtly in the periphery of a compelling story is like reading a book where the author drops in some rare words that are contextually defined in memorable ways. That extra layer of “I learned something new” (when I didn’t expect it) creates a hidden layer of value/endorphin reward that adds value and shareability.

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      8 months ago

      I get what you are saying but as a woman who has cum both ways, no. Squirting doesn’t feel any better physically, at least to me. I would say: Direct clitoral most physically intense but hard to keep going, probably the closest match to what guys feel. Unlikely to be multiple but the time a guy forced multiple on me with a vibrator was so intense I thought I might go crazy or die, it was like falling off a cliff. I’m not even sure I’d call it pleasure but am glad to have experienced it, like I’m glad to have tried LSD. PIV most likely to cascade into rolling continuous orgasms, less intense but equally pleasurable, and usually multiple or that rolling once it starts, and is my favorite. The fingering that can get me to squirt is super intense, almost irritating, sometimes painful before I can get off but if I do it’s between the other two in intensity, and not as satisfying as either.