Got called a fucking terrorists after 9/11. I’m Mexican.
WTF tell me your not serous because that is insanely stupid and dangerous.
Not sure how old you are but calling brown people terrorists was extremely common after 9/11.
Im 40 and to be honest never thought of it.
I was first called a dyke then bull dyke in elementary school. I had no idea what it meant and the boy who was calling me that was hitting my head from his seat on the bus behind me. So I grabbed his backpack and and flipped him over the seat.
All the gay slurs were the most common to use against me. Though I did get called a n- lover a few times as well.
When I was younger I fought back physically and/ or verbally. As I got older I would just question the person on why what they were calling me was a bad thing.
Though I do think my favorite come back for any of the gay slurs when thrown by afab people would be saying: “yeah and trust me, it will never be an issue for you.” While giving them the up and down with a disgusted expression. Seeing the confusion then anger then confusion go across their faces was always amazing. They couldn’t argue with it other wise they would be saying they wanted to be seen as attractive by someone of the same sex.
All the examples you told, say absolutely nothing about you but tons of things about the other person.
They are basically shouting “LOOK AT ME, I’M A HATEFUL BIGOT!!”
Thats way worse then anything they could call you.That’s pretty advice, but doesn’t help much when you’re a kid who’s getting chronicly bullied while the adults look on.
I didn’t say this would help nor did I give any advice. I just stated my opinion about bigoted bullies.
Sorry you had to go thru that…nice comeback BTW…no sarcasm.
Completely ignore. If you respond in anyway, they achieve their purpose of being annoying.
If you respond in anyway, they achieve their purpose of being annoying.
I think that this is a good rule-of-thumb, but following it 100% of the time would be unwise. Sometimes you actually get a more desirable outcome by calling the person out, and gathering support against them.
Not even 48h ago. Well in the end I involuntarily admitted the offender to hospital.
Worked on the ambulance. Basically got stopped by a member of the public and informed a guy acting strange in front of a shop. Had a look, got called a few very nasty slurs, called for police backup. Clearly the patient was of unsound mind, not orientated, etc. After some more talking the cops restrained him upon my advice and he got admitted to a somatic(normal) hospital. Whole trip was full of slurs towards everyone, even random passerbys.
Somatic hospital checked him throughly and then transferred him to a psychiatric hospital.
Ha, working in healthcare you get called every name and slur there is. Worst for me was emergency room and when I worked a specialised intoxication ward. You can really learn sonething and fill up your ‘alternative’ vocabulary.
One time that stayed with me, was a patient calling me a ‘Dictator’. But it was acute psychiatry and most patients were there on court order, so I kinda was dictating what they could and couldn’t do.
Damn. That sounds a lot like my own former workplaces.
Do you by any chance work for the MRI/RDI?
Uh, pretty sure I was called a bitch for the first time at like age 3. How I’ve dealt with being called bitch/slut/cunt/hag/feminazi/whore/so on and so forth has changed as I’ve grown and also by the specific experience.
Men get called “dicks”. I would consider that a slur and would guess it’s not a one-time “this is how I dealt with it” kind of occurrence for lots of men.
I’m a trans PoC immigrant. I get catcalled and called slurs very frequently. Nowadays I mostly just ignore them unless they pose a danger.
I grew up being called faggot all the time. And since I live in a redneck filled shithole, I still occasionally hear it from MAGA loving pieces of shit; mostly from moving vehicles because the assholes are too cowardly to say or do shit within kicking distance.
But how did you deal with it?
Get pissed then ignore it. Maybe think about following the vehicle to it’s destination so I can key it and slash their tires. Though I don’t actually ever do that; it’s fun to think about.
I am pretty hard to offend because I know they are trying to offend me and I know they are made of easily mechanically separated meat.
I grew up during a time where “gay” was a common insult in school. And being called that probably impacted me more than I gave it credit for… I guess some other things (I went through a lot of abuse in high school) but none stick out to me as such.
More recently, some bi male friends of mine have been using the bundle-of-sticks word to refer to me and others, so I’m wondering if that term in particular is being reclaimed.
Other than that, apart from an American friend not realising how problematic “special” is, I’ve not really been slurred at. I don’t think I’d take it very well though if it happened irl, given how sensitive I am…
I remember these times, and do I ever have regrets. We were all dumb kids at some point, and we really didn’t know as much as we thought we did. I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
I got called a white N-word by an African man because I was doing my job. I hung up on his ass after I realized what he was saying.
Not giving a single fuck like it should be.
A hexbear called me a “chaser” because I said my wife is a femboy. I laughed it off because I don’t care what transphobic children believe.
Yes, many times and mostly I ignored it.
Good for you …no sarcasm.
When I was a kid I had a friend who’d call me the R slur pretty frequently. Besides ADHD Im basically nurotypjcal, he just meant to say I was being stupid. I kind of internalized it at the time and it gave me some self confidence issues about my intelligence, but I think that would’ve happened even if he wasn’t using a slur.
Sorry you had to go thru that mate.
Where do we draw the line for slur?
I’m sure we can all agree that one word that starts with N would count, but what about doo-doo-head, dumbass, or fatso?
As a student of history I could mention a couple besides the N word that probably no one uses today. But I don’t want to get banned.
