Used to be sad and tired as well.
Ditched unhealthy food. Started running. Started losing weight. Started being active.
I used to sleep 8 to 11 hrs. Anything less and I’d be a wreck. Now I sleep 6hrs a night, even on the weekends and I’m good to go at 6am. It drives my GF nuts.
For me it was literally that “easy”.
Whoever invents a pill to stop physical aging at 25 will be increadibly rich
I hear one was invented years ago. I think it was called a cyanide pill or something like that.
Well, you are not wrong…
Also, chips make you fat now.
And they give you a headache if you eat them at the wrong time
Hold up can you elaborate?
Because I definitely have noticed sometimes getting chip headaches and sometimes not and if it’s time-based I want to know more.
My apple watch has alerted me to the fact that if I eat a really salty meal- like a burger and fries, or a whole bag of kettle chips- my heart rate increases by about 40 beats per minute. It’s like “Hey… you don’t seem to have moved and your heart is going bananas. You ok bro?”
You might have high blood pressure.
Or just be dehydrated. Salt dehydrates you and most people are already mildly dehydrated at most times. Dehydration can do a lot of shit to the human body, hydro homies wasn’t just a joke subreddit!
Very true. Humans find it hard to distinguish between thirsty and hungry.
For me, if I’m getting a headache I’m likely not drinking enough water. Which if I’m not careful will become a migraine and wreck me.
Normal blood pressure, I get it checked every two weeks for an unrelated thing, just salt sensitive.
You might have a glitter sensitivity as well
That does seem like something I should look into…
Eh, I was tired and sad all the time as a kid too. At least now I have autonomy and don’t have to live with crazy people.
I’m guessing you mean directly living because it seems a fair bit have become crazy.
Musta meant share housing with crazy people.
Because we all have to live with crazy people, even more so if you have to work services or retail.
And I though tumblr was bad at reading comprehension.
I feel that there’s language barriers on Lemmy sometimes. Very diverse group here. I didn’t think for a second if you meant “live on this planet with crazy people” or “live in a house with crazy people” - seemed obvious to me the latter is what you meant, but maybe this is expressed differently in Germany or other countries.
I was talking about being a child with no autonomy stuck in a house with my crazy parents.
I know, I know okay that there are many people in bad situations or going through acute events that are terrible, and people with physiological depression but for many other people this negative malaise is self-inflicted. So many people who could be happy are focusing on and amplifying all negative parts of life, doomscrolling online, and then not taking the initiative to socialize or do things that would make them happy. This is reinforced by a culture where it is in vogue to play up your misery, and it turns into a game of one upsmanship.
The average person reading this can actually be happy, have friends, and do things instead of wallowing in a mental cage. I’m begging and pleading with people to make an effort to break out of this.
I wouldn’t call trying to make plans with friends and meet new people then end up being ghosted or ditched as not taking initiative to socialize but alrighty. It’s exhausting, and for nothing to come out of it for months on end makes it seem pointless.
If you are being ghosted for months, it is time for a new approach.
I think what the poster is trying to say is that for most people perspective is a choice and can be changed by making small adjustments to your life. You can also make huge adjustments but most people won’t tolerate changing too fast.
The idea is that instead of the road to your goal being difficult and full of deception, its maybe that the goal itself is unreasonable or incorrect.
There’s a lot of talk about how to achieve ones goals, whatever they are, but not much talk towards setting realistic goals for yourself and being realistic with what you expect to get out of achieving those goals.
Edit to add: more to your point about trying to make friends, its possible that its because the goal doesnt make sense. In my experience, adults dont have time to make friends just for the sake of friendship. It would be more realistic to set a goal of attending some sort of social event or sport consistently for a year where you would be around people enough to develop friendships without any risk.
Also I think these days people looking to meet strangers to make friends are almost indistinguishable from scammers and fraudsters at first, so that could be part of the issue with the relationships you’ve tried to pursue if that applies at all.
I’m not disagreeing but if it were as easy as that to be happy, then a lot more adults would be.
Sinking into an unhappy rut is easy. Being proactive takes effort.
Every time I see these “haha everything is miserable am I right?” kind of memes I reflexively feel a desire to push against it.
It is my #2 priority as a dad that I impart upon them that they not rush into being an adult.
For as long as I could remember I couldn’t wait to “grow up”.
I still haven’t grown up.
But seriously thanks and good job dad, I know I have wished I had someone to explain and remind me how special childhood was when I was a child.
When I was a kid, I really wanted to grow up quickly. I was autistic and did well in school, but I didn’t understand the other kids socially. My parents wanted me to move up a year. The school principal didn’t want that, she wanted me to stay with the kids my age so I could learn to relate to them. But I got moved up anyway, and I immediately started doing better. The older kids were more logical, because of their developed brains, and I understood them better. The older my peer group gets, the better I understand other people. Being a grownup is awesome!
But during my adolescent years, I started suffering from depression. Then I realised I was trans. I transitioned, and became a happier person than I’d ever been as a kid. I was only able to transition because I had more knowledge about how the world works, and I was in charge of my own medical affairs. Being a grownup is awesome!
Some kids just aren’t meant to be kids. Or at least, they aren’t meant to be treated the way our society treats kids. Children have little knowledge, no money, and no freedom. In many ways they are the most oppressed class of our society, as Bahamian-American immigrant and political scientist, Foreign, recently said. If a kid doesn’t like being a kid, I’m inclined to take their judgement at face value. Being a kid does suck if you can’t get your needs met and your level of ability is beyond your peers.
Imagine having to relive middle school. Yeah, that’s what every day in the life of a child is like. Fuck that.
I wanna know where you are that adults make sense and behave logically.
Don’t sleep on getting enough rest (if you can, obviously)
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Scumbag body wakes up at quarter after 5 for no reason >:(
You guys are sad all the time???
You… You’re not?
No sometimes I’m drunk
No I’m killing it. I have a dog and she loves me, and my partner and I have a wonderful life together.
Fuck yeah that’s great to hear! I’m pretty sure my cat loves me but he mostly likes to be on his own and I can go days without seeing him lol
I refer to my pending heart attack in 30 years lovingly.
That sweet release.
I mainly fluctuate between sad, angry, frustrated, and feeling defeated. I try to ignore everything… When I’m successful in ignoring things, that’s my happy time.
Between work stress, financial stress, all the other stress, etc… I don’t get to be happy often. I usually settle for “not unhappy” or similar. I’ve become quite numb over the years and it takes a lot to motivate me to feel at all. Life just sucks too hard.
Such is being middle class.
If you suck at being an adult, then yes.
Sounds like a “fuck you, got mine” boomer mentality. The rest of us have empathy.
